Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
Wiesel29 schrieb:
Why do you even feel compelled to question it? In my opinion, there was absolutely no reason to do so.I was just curious!
Solveigh schrieb:
Recently, our gardener sprayed weeds with an organic product, and it was noted 40m (130 feet) beyond OUR property what he was doing.
Probably our mistake; we should have clarified the “their” boundaries with our neighbors much earlier. You go there once, with a super kind and patient explainer, who just happens to have a skull on their vest
Solveigh schrieb:
The mistake of our neighbors is that, to avoid neighbors and their construction site, they should have bought our property. It’s actually quite simple! The bigger and longer a property lies fallow, the higher the dreams soar that it will remain a meadow forever—and also the seemingly natural assumption that, at most, your own (in-law) children would build there. These dreams then burst painfully. But there is no customary right to a neighbor’s property to remain untouched forever, and the awakener of the property shouldn’t have to take that blame.
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So true – that’s exactly the problem our neighbors have too. There used to be a nice meadow, and it could have stayed that way. It was maintained by my father, or my mother, my brother, or me. When the grass got too tall for them, Madame would stomp over to my mother (who’s turning 80 years old tomorrow) and demand that the meadow be mowed. For the sake of the peaceful neighborhood, we did it (we already told our mother back then that it wasn’t any of their business how we maintained our property – but no, Mom wanted peace).
And now the daughter and her husband are simply building a house there!
Outrageous!
That’s why I’ve come to think that it’s important to set boundaries early on. Make it clear: this is my property, and that means MY property and MY decision about what I will do with it (of course within the limits of applicable laws).
We probably missed that moment. It’s almost certain it will happen this summer when we dare to sit and talk in our newly landscaped garden, and the neighbor will hear us. She doesn’t like that, so in her opinion, we should stay inside the house and close all the windows so she can’t hear us.
And we will have to put an end to that. It’s not like I’m looking forward to it...
But if we had been more assertive earlier, maybe this wouldn’t even be necessary now.
Just something to think about...
And now the daughter and her husband are simply building a house there!
Outrageous!
That’s why I’ve come to think that it’s important to set boundaries early on. Make it clear: this is my property, and that means MY property and MY decision about what I will do with it (of course within the limits of applicable laws).
We probably missed that moment. It’s almost certain it will happen this summer when we dare to sit and talk in our newly landscaped garden, and the neighbor will hear us. She doesn’t like that, so in her opinion, we should stay inside the house and close all the windows so she can’t hear us.
And we will have to put an end to that. It’s not like I’m looking forward to it...
But if we had been more assertive earlier, maybe this wouldn’t even be necessary now.
Just something to think about...
Climbee schrieb:
She doesn’t like that, so in her opinion, we have to stay inside the house and close all the windows. So she can’t hear us. Oh, wasn’t there something about a garage window from her side towards you?
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Exactly those.
Exactly those who once stood outside our front door screaming and raging for about 10 minutes because we dared to leave the patio door open for 5 minutes in the evening on her side, as Miss Cat couldn't decide whether to come in or not—or yes or no (typical cat behavior)—and she heard us had the TV on (because at the same time she had, unfortunately, left her window open for ventilation).
Exactly those.
Exactly those who once stood outside our front door screaming and raging for about 10 minutes because we dared to leave the patio door open for 5 minutes in the evening on her side, as Miss Cat couldn't decide whether to come in or not—or yes or no (typical cat behavior)—and she heard us had the TV on (because at the same time she had, unfortunately, left her window open for ventilation).
Exactly those.
This week, the friendly neighbors reminded me twice:
One asked me to trim a few grass blades along the fence that the lawn mower had missed. The other politely but firmly requested that I move the blackberry bush away from the fence, as it would otherwise spread over and cause her trouble. She is probably right, so I will take care of that as well.
Overall, I think I’ve gotten off quite lightly when I read about what some other neighbors here let themselves get away with...
One asked me to trim a few grass blades along the fence that the lawn mower had missed. The other politely but firmly requested that I move the blackberry bush away from the fence, as it would otherwise spread over and cause her trouble. She is probably right, so I will take care of that as well.
Overall, I think I’ve gotten off quite lightly when I read about what some other neighbors here let themselves get away with...
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