Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
ypg schrieb:
Tumaa, no one here is against children. You’re getting completely worked up because you’re misunderstanding a lot of the comments.Hehe, I’m relaxed, but I still stand by what I said.
MayrCh schrieb:
You assign blanket attributes to parts of your black-and-white view, based on hearsay about other people’s behavior, and try to soften it with "often," while at the same time implying it applies universally.These are personal experiences.
Why do you actually feel addressed if you have nothing against children?
The kids were unfairly labeled as noisy, and in general, people are unfriendly and don’t greet you – that’s really disrespectful!
She’s even like a shrew who torments her husband, and the cousin wasn’t allowed to buy their house either. Such rudeness!
tumaa, look at it this way: you’re glad they’re gone, and they’re glad to be away.
She’s even like a shrew who torments her husband, and the cousin wasn’t allowed to buy their house either. Such rudeness!
tumaa, look at it this way: you’re glad they’re gone, and they’re glad to be away.
tumaa schrieb:
Hehe, I’m relaxed, but I stand by my point.tumaa schrieb:
Why do you actually feel addressed if you don’t have anything against children?!Because you keep insisting that people without children are child haters.You are completely twisting this discussion.
You ignore the need for peace and quiet, which was the topic here, and impose your personal experience.
It’s a bit narrow-minded to see everything only from your own perspective.
guckuck2 schrieb:
The kids were unfairly labeled as loud, and overall, people are unfriendly and don’t greet – really disrespectful!
She’s even a shrew who troubles her husband, and her cousin wasn’t allowed to buy their house either. Such nerve! Wow, you’re really funny ... no wonder children reflect your behavior. I said respect knows no language or age.
At least I was raised to show respect, especially to older people, so is it really too much to expect that such children get some respect back?!
Yes, there are macho men and shrews, both exist.
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chand198620 Apr 2020 09:09HilfeHilfe schrieb:
Does that mean pet owners are antisocial because they don’t teach their dogs proper behavior, or should dogs be taught some manners?It’s quite clear: YES. It’s exactly the same as with: CHILDREN.
1a) Failing to teach dogs basic rules of behavior toward other people: Not social.
2a) Failing to teach children basic rules of behavior toward other people: Not social.
1b) Barking at every jogger while out and possibly running toward them off-leash violates the basic rules in 1a). Therefore: Antisocial.
2b) Regularly shouting at a loud volume in your own garden when immediate neighbors are around violates the basic rules in 1b). Therefore: Antisocial.
All of this is the result of upbringing, for better or worse. "He just wants to play" is the same as "Children just are like that": The shrugging excuse not to do the demanding, annoying, often frustrating educational work that limits oneself.
Instead of starting with oneself, others are blamed. Because they allegedly don’t like children. One’s own children are always great, that’s obvious. How could they annoy someone? Impossible, how disrespectful...
tumaa schrieb:
Why is it not allowed to have a different opinion here, why is it seen as patheticLike many others, you confuse freedom of opinion with freedom from contradiction. Nobody forbids you from anything. But many judge what you write. That itself is freedom of opinion – it’s not one-sided!tumaa schrieb:
Who am I personally attacking with this?!
Anyone here who doesn’t mind children doesn’t have to feel addressed!If you form a group (childless people) and attribute a “frequent” behavior to them (your opinion), isn’t that personal? How is the part of that group who have a neutral view toward children supposed to feel addressed?
You categorize things far too black and white, step on some toes because of that, and then wonder about pushback?
chand1986 schrieb:
Like many others, you confuse freedom of speech with freedom from contradiction. No one is forbidding you from anything. But many express opinions about what you write. That is also freedom of speech – it’s not one-way traffic! Okay, I’ll express my opinion too!
chand1986 schrieb:
When you create a group (childless people) and attribute a "common" behavior to them (your opinion), isn’t that personal? Yes, it is personal, but my message is only intended for those who cannot stand children. If no one here fits that description, then all is well!