Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
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Sandrasix20 Apr 2020 15:59nordanney schrieb:
@Sandrasix: Didn’t your site manager plan to talk with the neighbor today? Are there any updates? Then we can also get back to the actual "problem" At 4 PM.
Until then, I’ll be reading along here with interest.
By the way, I wouldn’t end a friendship over a wedding without children.
But as a mother, I might feel a little hurt. It all depends on the way it’s handled.
If it’s explained with understanding, then it’s fine!
It’s your day. I would be considerate of that.
There were children at my wedding.
And from 9 PM...........
Winniefred20 Apr 2020 16:06Sandrasix schrieb:
At 4 p.m.
Until then, I’ll keep reading here with interest.
By the way, I wouldn’t end a friendship over a wedding without children.
But as a mother, it might hurt me a little. However, it’s all about how it’s communicated.
If it’s explained in an understanding way, then it’s fine!
It’s your day, so I would be considerate of that.
There were children at my wedding.
And from 9 p.m........... Please report back then!
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HilfeHilfe20 Apr 2020 16:24Alessandro schrieb:
That’s exactly how we did it! I don’t understand why you always have to read things into it and aggressively add your opinion when you don’t know anything???!
I don’t want a kids’ party, a bouncy castle, or a magician. This is not a children’s birthday party! It’s a day for my wife and me. In my opinion, anyone who can’t accept that is selfish! The kids can be the center of attention the other 364 days of the year.
I’m not talking about teenagers, but children who depend on their parents and constantly need to be occupied by them! It’s your right; you pay, so you decide who comes in and who doesn’t.
I interpret it as I perceive it, and honestly, I wouldn’t be friends with you. You started the discussion about friends, not me.
Maybe you or your wife are unhappy with the overall situation.
We once had a very good couple of friends; the formerly best friend completely lost it when we had our first child, and they visited us. He confronted her, complaining that it was always about the kids and that he couldn’t take it anymore, blah blah.
He never wanted children but didn’t want to lose her. Once we had a child, we became the “enemies.”
They had a child three years after us when she wanted to leave him. Now they have a child that holds the marriage together. The friendship is gone. I lost interest in him.
Honestly, I have no interest in you either. Your reaction reminds me of Frank back then. He was just a smaller Alessandro who had no interest in bouncy castles, clubs, sports, or kids’ gymnastics.
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HilfeHilfe20 Apr 2020 16:26Alessandro schrieb:
Yes, to each their own.
Different opinions regarding one’s own children are hardly accepted anymore by "modern" parents.
These are the soccer dads who call the coach and ask why little Kai isn’t in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he missed practice this week due to schoolwork and grandma’s name day. But you don’t even have children. How would you know, Frank?
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Alessandro20 Apr 2020 16:27@HilfeHilfe
It's mutual. You really live up to all the clichés.
I was a youth handball coach for many years.
It's mutual. You really live up to all the clichés.
I was a youth handball coach for many years.
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HilfeHilfe20 Apr 2020 16:28Sandrasix schrieb:
At 4 p.m.
Until then, I’ll be eagerly reading along here.
By the way, I wouldn’t end a friendship over a wedding without children invited.
But as a mother, it would hurt me a little. Still, it’s all in how you say it.
If it’s explained with understanding, it’s fine!
It’s your day. I would be considerate of that.
There were children at my wedding.
and from 9 p.m...........And when little Allessandro and his partner have their first brat, will you then be allowed to come to little Frank’s birthday party? Because that little brat – Frank – wants to be shown around the great things Allessandro has^^