Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
tumaa schrieb:
I really can’t stand the view from neighbors like that!!! Hello tumaa,
Your attitude comes across as very intolerant.
You have children yourself, yet you do not accept anyone who cannot tolerate noise from children, regardless of the reason. In fact, you even judge people who move away because of child noise.
I mentioned that I plan to buy 6,000m² (1.5 acres) of land in front of my property to prevent any houses from being built there. I suppose that wouldn’t be acceptable to you either. Your attitude could be described as selfish.
Steven
Steven schrieb:
Hello tumaa
your view is full of intolerance.
You have children, but you do not tolerate anyone who can't handle noise from children, no matter the reason. In fact, you even criticize people who move away because of children’s noise.
I had mentioned that I will buy 6,000m² (1.5 acres) of land in front of my property to prevent any house from being built there. That is probably not acceptable to you either. Your view is what you call selfishness.
StevenBuy it, you can even buy another 6,000m² (1.5 acres) just to make sure no one moves in; there really are problems...
Then one shouldn’t move into a house, since children can always come along at any time.
I’m talking about an aversion to children here, not about someone having to tolerate noise. And yes, to me, it is an aversion if people don’t even give families a chance and decide to sell their house just because of that!
tumaa schrieb:
if you don’t even give families a chance and immediately sell your house because of them!! . Hello tumaa
What chance exactly? And why? You are getting lost in your selfishness. Not everyone in the world thinks like you do. There are people who need peace and quiet and simply do not like the noise children make. Apparently, you don’t understand that. Does everyone have to conform to your lifestyle, otherwise they are a bad person?
I mostly book vacations in hotels that do not accept children under 16 years old. Usually a bit more expensive, but the quiet is worth it to me. Clearly, you don’t get that. Hopefully, you will mature before you start needing peace and quiet yourself. Because it is exactly people like you who become bitter in their later years. Just because not everyone follows their lead.
Steven
tumaa schrieb:
Buy it, you can even buy an additional 6000 m² (about 1.5 acres) just to make sure no one moves in there, there are really problems...
Then you shouldn’t move into a house at all, since children can come at any time.
I’m talking about a dislike of children, not about dealing with noise. And yes, for me it is a dislike if someone doesn’t even give families a chance and immediately sells their house for that reason!!Yes, let them! People can buy and sell houses for whatever reason they want. They have their opinions just like you do.Steven schrieb:
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Hello tumaa
What chance? And why? You are getting lost in your selfishness. Not everyone in the world thinks like you do. There are people who need peace and quiet and simply don’t like noise from children. Apparently, you don’t understand that. Everyone has to adapt to your lifestyle, otherwise they are a bad person?
I mostly book holidays at hotels that do not accept children under 16 years. It is usually a bit more expensive, but the peace is worth it to me. Apparently, that’s hard for you to understand. Hopefully, you will mature a bit before you become someone who needs peace and quiet. Because exactly people like you are the ones who become bitter in later life. Just because not everyone dances to their tune.
StevenIt’s quite simple, Steven: everyone who doesn’t want children will like your post, and everyone who does have children will like mine.
And your claim that people like me become bitter is complete nonsense.
Usually, it’s those who have no one left and take out their frustration on others!
“It’s the foreigners, it’s the children, blah blah blah.”
My new neighbors, both over 70, were beaming when we told them we have children.
Loneliness *can* destroy many people…