Hello,
I’m not sure if this is the right section for this thread, but I couldn’t find a more suitable one.
I often read here about couples planning and building their house before having children. As a result, the children’s rooms are planned more or less optimistically.
That was also the case for us when we bought our house. At the time, we thought it would be quick and easy to fill the three children’s rooms. A few years later, we have to accept that we will probably never have biological children. Since adoption was an option for us from the start, we are still hopeful that we will have children eventually. The process has already cost us a lot, and there will be more costs to come; in the end, we will probably have spent a mid five-figure amount.
Because of these difficult experiences, I would like to advise every original poster who is building before having children that having children can take longer and be more expensive than planned. But of course, I don’t want to always be the downer. Unfulfilled desire to have children affects about one in ten couples, depending on how you look at it.
What do you think? Am I being too negative? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
I’m not sure if this is the right section for this thread, but I couldn’t find a more suitable one.
I often read here about couples planning and building their house before having children. As a result, the children’s rooms are planned more or less optimistically.
That was also the case for us when we bought our house. At the time, we thought it would be quick and easy to fill the three children’s rooms. A few years later, we have to accept that we will probably never have biological children. Since adoption was an option for us from the start, we are still hopeful that we will have children eventually. The process has already cost us a lot, and there will be more costs to come; in the end, we will probably have spent a mid five-figure amount.
Because of these difficult experiences, I would like to advise every original poster who is building before having children that having children can take longer and be more expensive than planned. But of course, I don’t want to always be the downer. Unfulfilled desire to have children affects about one in ten couples, depending on how you look at it.
What do you think? Am I being too negative? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
s4todres schrieb:
Toy room sounds interesting ... hopefully lockable. You little rascal. But that was a classic easy setup What else is the basement for, which is insulated to KfW55 standard? Not everything has to be just about energy efficiencyI believe every discussion has its place.
Even the difficult topics that hardly anyone talks about.
Sorry, Niloa.
Still, some might quietly be relieved if having children doesn’t happen too quickly—especially when you look at how tight the financing is. There’s hardly anything left over for the first little shoes.
Even the difficult topics that hardly anyone talks about.
Sorry, Niloa.
Still, some might quietly be relieved if having children doesn’t happen too quickly—especially when you look at how tight the financing is. There’s hardly anything left over for the first little shoes.
Having a few extra rooms just in case isn’t really a problem, is it? Unless you’re pushing your budget to the limit with those additional rooms, but I find that hard to imagine since children also bring additional costs (and reduce income).
We also have 180 sqm (approximately 1937 sq ft) and 6 rooms, just the two of us. All the rooms are being used.
From the start, it was clear to us that we wouldn’t have children. I never wanted any, and my husband doesn’t really mind either. There was a time when he asked a few times, but he’s definitely not the father type, and the topic has long since been settled.
The many rooms were more by chance, but I prefer having a bit more space. That way, you can easily accommodate unexpected needs, like a home office.
It’s definitely more difficult the other way around.
We also have 180 sqm (approximately 1937 sq ft) and 6 rooms, just the two of us. All the rooms are being used.
From the start, it was clear to us that we wouldn’t have children. I never wanted any, and my husband doesn’t really mind either. There was a time when he asked a few times, but he’s definitely not the father type, and the topic has long since been settled.
The many rooms were more by chance, but I prefer having a bit more space. That way, you can easily accommodate unexpected needs, like a home office.
It’s definitely more difficult the other way around.
Two or three rooms can be useful even without children. Childless couples often have more time and money for hobbies.
Usually, financing should be arranged so that in an emergency everything can be managed with one income plus the maximum wage replacement benefit.
You cannot plan for every eventuality, whether it is an unfulfilled desire for children, illness, or a sudden addition to the family (recently there were triplets).
Usually, financing should be arranged so that in an emergency everything can be managed with one income plus the maximum wage replacement benefit.
You cannot plan for every eventuality, whether it is an unfulfilled desire for children, illness, or a sudden addition to the family (recently there were triplets).
I think two additional rooms can still be very useful even without children. When the kids move out later, you’ll have those rooms available again. The "children phase" only lasts about 20 to 25 years, then the kids go their own way. We will then simply have a second bedroom, for example if someone is sick, and the other room will become a fitness room, possibly with a sauna.
Best regards
Sabine
Best regards
Sabine
Yes, we also planned for a children's room, but we don’t want children. It will be turned into a yoga room and an office. You can never have enough space. However, we often hear that having over 200 m² (2,150 sq ft) for two people is considered decadent. I need the space and think it’s great.
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