Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
tumaa schrieb:
1) Children are not boughtQuite a shame, actually. tumaa schrieb:
2) you can make your own, provided it’s biologically possible
Unfortunately, that didn’t work out.kaho674 schrieb:
It didn’t work out, unfortunately.I’m really sorry for you, but don’t give up!!!!
Maybe it can still work out.
I always find it very sad when someone wants it but it doesn’t happen. Unfortunately, there are also bad parents who have children without problems.
I support the idea of a driver’s license for parents who want to have children.
Life can be beautiful both with and without children.
All the best!!!
tumaa schrieb:
I'm really sorry for you, but don’t give up!!!!
Maybe it can still work out.
Um, no, but thanks for your good intentions. I’m not dying of grief either. What you never had, you can’t miss – well, or let’s say, you’ll miss it less.I dislike both:
People who have something against children (this is not about wanting peace and quiet!)
&
Parents who have children but are unable to raise them or take care of them!!
I did not mean to offend anyone with my statements, and if I did, I apologize.
Have a nice Sunday!
People who have something against children (this is not about wanting peace and quiet!)
&
Parents who have children but are unable to raise them or take care of them!!
I did not mean to offend anyone with my statements, and if I did, I apologize.
Have a nice Sunday!
Winniefred19 Apr 2020 12:23Sandrasix schrieb:
Hello dear members,
I found your wonderful forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as it often happens, a problem has brought me here.
We are extending an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a concrete slab. The friendly neighbor built their half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Because of work and having two children, we can’t be on site every hour.
Yesterday morning, the workers started installing the formwork for the concrete slab.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my neighbor was already waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was very angry.
He said the slab adjoining his property only has Styrodur insulation.
One of the workers tried to explain that the slab includes Styrodur and that an additional 4 cm (about 1.5 inches) soundproof wall will be installed on the house side.
But he wouldn’t calm down.
He just kept shouting. He said he would take pictures and that he wouldn’t pay anything.
We never intended to ask him for money.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried because his house extends 3 cm (about 1.2 inches) onto our property along its entire length.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband.
He wanted to go to a lawyer right away.
But I value peace with our neighbor more.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my ignorance. I have two children and have to keep them entertained on the side.
Thank you, Sandra How did the follow-up meeting with your neighbor go? I hope you can still find some common ground. I also find his behavior shocking, whether towards a woman or children—it’s simply unacceptable in general. I can’t comment on the legal side as I’m not familiar with it. However, I would take the neighbor’s concerns seriously and have them checked, if only to protect yourself from potential issues later on.
To the others: We have children who are sometimes noisy, and it bothers me too, but I cannot and will not suppress them. We bought a house so the kids can run and play in the garden. We do limit unnecessary shouting, but normal play happens. Our neighbors don’t have children but grandchildren, and they often have gatherings and visitors, so it’s a give and take. We also have a terrier that sometimes barks at dogs at the fence—that can be annoying too. We are certainly not perfect neighbors, but we get along well with everyone here by tolerating each other’s disturbances and living and letting live.
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hampshire19 Apr 2020 12:32Can we create a separate thread for the discussion about noise from children? I have now flipped through several pages to check if there is any response from @Sandrasix. I am hoping for a positive update after a difficult start.