Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
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HilfeHilfe19 Apr 2020 10:52kaho674 schrieb:
You can't force anyone to like children. By law, people have to tolerate noise from kids, but that doesn’t mean they have to actually like it! I’m honestly shocked how some here wish people would just move to the middle of nowhere (even though only foresters are allowed there, so they might as well say “the moon”) or get upset when others move away. Seriously, now parents want others to be forced to put up with their badly behaved kids. No, no – you brought this on yourselves. You have to deal with the consequences alone. So what? There’s a legal leash requirement, even on fields and farm tracks. And yet, three very friendly oversized dogs came running up to me wanting to sniff the jogger uncle. Did I lose it and reprimand the owners? No, it’s useless anyway.
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HilfeHilfe19 Apr 2020 10:57tumaa schrieb:
A person without children again, there are also people who are overwhelmed even without children, I’ll close that drawer again . Passing on childcare duties is legally required. At least for school, there is compulsory schooling. And not everyone can afford to stay home full-time to provide afternoon care. In most workplaces, your professional career is essentially over once you have children. By the way, kindergarten and school are also places to learn social interaction. Social contacts and friendships develop there; you learn how to live together. It’s like adults having a barbecue with friends. Or do you all grill alone??? I also often see dog owners walking their dogs in groups, not alone.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
Yes, so what? By law, dogs must be on a leash, even in fields and on field paths. And still, three very friendly XXL dogs ran up to me and wanted to sniff the jogging uncle. Did I lose it and lecture the owners? No, it’s pointless anyway. Next time, just choose a different route, and if they become your neighbors, you can always sell your house—no one can blame you for that… = Irony off
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HilfeHilfe19 Apr 2020 11:04tumaa schrieb:
Next time, just choose a different route, and if those become your neighbors, you sell your house—nobody can blame you for that... = Irony off
No, I honestly don’t care who my neighbors sell to. I don’t understand why this is such a big deal here. Should we feel guilty now because the neighbor no longer feels comfortable? I come from a village where houses were bought and nicely renovated by German Turks because the children wanted to move to the cities. First, it was a drama; now everyone appreciates that the villages are becoming lively again.
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Three people disagree with my thesis = none of the three have children so far....
Wrong again. I like children. But not all of them, and strangers even less. I even thought about buying one or two from my girlfriend. She has six now. But she didn’t want to give any away. Pretty stingy, isn’t it?kaho674 schrieb:
Wrong again. I like children. But not all of them, and especially not other people’s kids. I’ve even thought about buying one or two from my girlfriend. She has six now. But she didn’t want to give any away. Pretty stingy, right? No!
1) You don’t buy children
2) You can have your own, as long as it’s biologically possible