Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
tumaa schrieb:
It’s quite simple, Steven: anyone who doesn’t want to have children will like your post, and anyone who has children will like mine.Hello tumaa,
thinking in black and white.
I once had a partner who ran a psychology practice. She could explain this to you in detail. She made surprisingly accurate analyses. I didn’t stand a chance against her. You would be an easy target for her.
I’m going to step back a bit now. This just keeps going in circles. It doesn’t help.
Steven
tumaa schrieb:
I am talking about a dislike of children Yes, that’s allowed. It’s really no different from people who, for example, don’t like dogs.
tumaa schrieb:
It’s quite simple, Steven: anyone who doesn’t want children will like your post, and anyone who has children will like mine. What a revelation. I don’t buy a Maserati if I don’t like cars either.
tumaa schrieb:
Usually, it’s those who have no one left and need to take out their frustration on others!!!!!!
“It’s the foreigners, it’s the children, blah, blah, blah.”
My new neighbors, both over 70, beamed when we told them we have children. Once again, such a ridiculous statistical observation with n=1, from which completely absurd theories are constructed.
tumaa schrieb:
It's quite simple, Steven: anyone who doesn't want children will like your post, and everyone who has children will like mine. Not wanting to have children doesn’t necessarily mean that someone can’t or doesn’t want to live alongside or with children.
You are the one thinking in such black-and-white terms right now, @tumaa... discussions like this tend to be rather unproductive.
kaho674 schrieb:
Once again, such a ridiculous statistical study with n=1, from which completely absurd theories are then made.That’s apparently what psychologists do as well, right Steven?
Even psychologists can be wrong!
These are my personal experiences; I’m not saying everyone is like that!
You could conduct a survey and also ask whether the participants have children... then you’ll see.
tumaa schrieb:
It’s quite simple, Steven: everyone who doesn’t want to have children will like your post, and everyone who has children will like mine.
And your claim that it is exactly people like me who become malicious is complete nonsense.
Usually, it’s those who have no one left and need to take out their frustration on others!!!!!!
“It’s the foreigners, it’s the children, blah blah blah”
My new neighbors, both over 70, were beaming when we told them we have children.
Loneliness “can” break many people….. Wrong. I have children and I don’t like your posts because they make no sense to me.