Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
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HilfeHilfe19 Apr 2020 08:01tumaa schrieb:
Don’t you get it? Again, who says that children make the surroundings noisier?! I can’t remember a single time during my childhood when neighbors complained about my supposed loudness.
You know what’s strange?! People who talk like that usually don’t have children, I’ve noticed that again and again.
The behavior you see as normal, I see as inconsiderate. You generalize and don’t even give families a chance!!
And once more, if families ignore everything, I can totally understand neighbors moving away!!!!!! Exactly! I remember my highly educated colleague (a mathematician) for whom everything is logical. She always wondered why children can’t be kept quiet in restaurants. Now that she has one herself, she’s constantly irritated—parenting isn’t so logical after all.
@Zauberwesen ... exactly the same here. By the way, I live surrounded by many children and I think that’s a good thing. However, I can understand people who find it difficult to accept normal children’s noise as just a part of everyday life. Those people are much more socially responsible if they move away instead of just making life unpleasant for the neighborhood.
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HilfeHilfe19 Apr 2020 08:04kbt09 schrieb:
@tumaa ... you just don’t want to understand.
People without children shouldn’t be accused of hating children when they move away.
Those sensitive to noise shouldn’t be accused of hating people when they change their environment because it’s too loud.No, they are not, but they still show zero understanding for families with children. It definitely makes a difference whether I have my niece over to play for two hours or have children around 24/7.kbt09 schrieb:
@tumaa ... where exactly are you affected if your neighbor sells their house? The reasons are none of your business at all.Haha... You move in next door, your neighbor sells their house because of you/your family, and you say: oh, that's none of my concern?!
Tolerant Germany