Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
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chand198620 Apr 2020 16:31Alessandro schrieb:
Children can certainly take center stage on the other 364 days of the year. There is already a misconception here. Children MUST be able to be present somewhere WITHOUT being the center of attention. It is possible to celebrate weddings WITH children, without a dedicated children’s program, without constant entertaining, and without the focus being on the children. If that is not possible, it clearly means a social skill has been lost.
If children happen to be playing during the wedding dance or a parent with a crying child does not leave the ceremony, the problem lies somewhere other than with the hosts... and anyone who has experienced that may want to reconsider the arrangements for their own future event.
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HilfeHilfe20 Apr 2020 16:35chand1986 schrieb:
There is already a misconception here. Children MUST be able to be present somewhere without being the center of attention. You can celebrate weddings WITH children, WITHOUT a separate kids’ program, without constant entertainment, and without the focus being entirely on the children. If that is not possible, it clearly means a cultural skill has been lost.
If children are playing during the exact time of the first dance or if a parent doesn’t leave the ceremony despite a crying child, the problem lies elsewhere than with the hosts... and anyone who has experienced this might reconsider the arrangements of their own future celebration. I have a large multicultural circle of friends
and have never experienced children ruining a wedding or party by shouting.
Most likely, at Allesaandro’s, there were wedding planners, ushers, and supervisors. If I had taken a beer too early, the wedding planner would have intervened, asking me to follow the fun and etiquette rules.
Beer only after the father of the bride’s speech and only after official go-ahead.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
If I had knocked back a beer too early, the wedding planner would have stepped in.Thank you for reminding me, a country kid, that a beautiful world is not something to take for granted and that in cities there are people who don't even know that fire department festivals exist.https://www.instagram.com/11antgmxde/
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chand198620 Apr 2020 16:42HilfeHilfe schrieb:
I have never experienced children screaming through a wedding or celebration. Neither have I. However, until now, the parents always said things like, "Not now! Sit still. You can keep playing later." The children listened, so games, the cake presentation, or the first dance of the bride and groom were not disturbed. Problem solved.
Climbee schrieb:
I know weddings where organizing the children's program is at least as complicated as planning the celebration itself—and honestly, I wouldn't want to do that. Many children are no longer able to occupy themselves for a few hours. I'm not talking about them coming over now and then asking for Mom or Dad, but rather that they can't entertain themselves at all anymore, because they are used to constantly receiving input from somewhere. But that is the parents' responsibility, not the children's! Most parents simply don't give their kids the chance to develop their own imagination and creativity.
Children don’t drive themselves to Toys “R” Us and fill their rooms with flashing, sparkling, and noisy toys. They also aren’t the ones who strip down in the pool to broadcast themselves live on Instagram.
Everything that “today’s” children apparently can’t do anymore is because their parents have taken that ability away from them.
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HilfeHilfe20 Apr 2020 16:5311ant schrieb:
Thanks for reminding me, Dorfkind, that a beautiful world isn’t something to be taken for granted, and that there are people living in cities who don’t even know that fire department festivals exist. Sorry if I sometimes come across as blunt.
But seriously, guys? Excluding children?