Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
Alessandro schrieb:
It's sad enough that you end lifelong friendships just because someone asks you to leave the children at home for the celebration as an exception. I believe that if such a reasonable and clearly explained request is immediately taken as an offense and the friendship is thus (silently) ended, then it was probably not very strong to begin with. In that case, it’s better not to have to feed these now strangers at your wedding either.
Weddings are usually announced well in advance. If someone can’t manage to arrange proper care for their children with that much notice, it either shows a lack of organizational skills, only half-hearted effort, or a tendency to always put their own interests first.
We like children, but earsplitting screaming from all directions would have spoiled our big day, which we planned for a long time with great care. New parents among the guests need to understand that without taking it as a deadly insult. Fortunately, most people can be spoken to reasonably.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
The last two weddings were wonderful. The children were warmly welcomed and included. There was a play area, there was dancing where the children could also join in, and there were fantastic wedding games where especially the children were the ones getting the laughs. If children are an integral part of the family, they sense it just as clearly as if the main people at the event carry unresolved trauma related to disruptive children. The concern that involving children in a celebration requires hiring a clown from a student agency to entertain alongside the officiant, and that the church organ can only be played by Rolf Zuckowski (a well-known children's musician), seems to me unrealistic. For those who have friends with crying children from all over the world, I believe it might be worthwhile to look for the underlying causes.
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Alessandro schrieb:
It’s a day for my wife and me. Anyone who doesn’t accept THAT is, in my opinion, selfish! That’s nonsense, and from what I’ve read so far, you’re the selfish ones. If it was only about you, you could just have a candlelight dinner for two. :P
We organized our wedding especially for our guests. I wanted to avoid boredom and filled the whole day with various entertainment. From a bird of prey demonstration at midday to a fire show in the evening – it was a great day for everyone, including the kids.
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Alessandro20 Apr 2020 15:41Yes, to each their own.
Other opinions when it comes to one’s own children are hardly accepted anymore by "modern" parents.
These are the soccer dads who call the coach and ask why little Kai isn’t in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he couldn’t attend practice this week due to schoolwork and his grandma’s name day.
Other opinions when it comes to one’s own children are hardly accepted anymore by "modern" parents.
These are the soccer dads who call the coach and ask why little Kai isn’t in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he couldn’t attend practice this week due to schoolwork and his grandma’s name day.
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nordanney20 Apr 2020 15:48@Sandrasix: Wasn't your site manager supposed to talk to the neighbor today? Are there any updates? Then we can get back to the actual "problem."
Alessandro schrieb:
These are the soccer dads who call the coach to ask why little Kai isn’t in the starting lineup on the weekend, just because he missed practice that week due to schoolwork and his grandma’s name day. If little Kai was the wedding crasher, he wouldn’t fit in any team sport.
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