Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
Yaso, I completely agree with you, and I find this development quite unsettling.
I don’t blame the children; it’s always the parents (like with dogs: it’s the other end of the leash…). Unfortunately, there are quite a few parents who believe their children should always be the center of attention and treated as such.
My best friend got married a while ago. She booked a room at the venue specifically so that tired children could rest or nursing mothers could retreat there (no one objects to nursing mothers, but the ones I know prefer a quieter place than a hall where the music calls people to the conga line). She’s a pharmacist and had spent a whole year collecting promotional gifts for children. At the wedding, there was a special kids’ table full of games and those giveaways the kids could take home, along with a large portion of fries with sausages for the meal, and so on.
And what happened? One guest actually complained that there was no program at all for the children. That it would be boring for the little ones. At that point, you just can’t believe it…
And no, they could not simply have been left off the guest list. Unfortunately, weddings often include not just friends but also dear relatives.
11ant mentions bambini — at the Italian weddings I have attended, there were always plenty of children present. But honestly, there was never a special children’s program, and everything went smoothly without any fussing parents complaining about the lack of a kids’ program (see above). I think that’s fine and nice. But unfortunately, we currently live in a society where that no longer quite works, and therefore, I understand Alessandro’s wish to celebrate the wedding without children.
Oh dear, I’m sorry, but you’re really embarrassing yourself — I’ve read so many of your comments here just like this when someone disagrees with you. Just stop — not everyone who sees things differently from you is unhappy with their life. And you don’t have all the wisdom in the world, even if you clearly believe you do.
I don’t blame the children; it’s always the parents (like with dogs: it’s the other end of the leash…). Unfortunately, there are quite a few parents who believe their children should always be the center of attention and treated as such.
My best friend got married a while ago. She booked a room at the venue specifically so that tired children could rest or nursing mothers could retreat there (no one objects to nursing mothers, but the ones I know prefer a quieter place than a hall where the music calls people to the conga line). She’s a pharmacist and had spent a whole year collecting promotional gifts for children. At the wedding, there was a special kids’ table full of games and those giveaways the kids could take home, along with a large portion of fries with sausages for the meal, and so on.
And what happened? One guest actually complained that there was no program at all for the children. That it would be boring for the little ones. At that point, you just can’t believe it…
And no, they could not simply have been left off the guest list. Unfortunately, weddings often include not just friends but also dear relatives.
11ant mentions bambini — at the Italian weddings I have attended, there were always plenty of children present. But honestly, there was never a special children’s program, and everything went smoothly without any fussing parents complaining about the lack of a kids’ program (see above). I think that’s fine and nice. But unfortunately, we currently live in a society where that no longer quite works, and therefore, I understand Alessandro’s wish to celebrate the wedding without children.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
Maybe you or your wife are unhappy with the overall situation.
Oh dear, I’m sorry, but you’re really embarrassing yourself — I’ve read so many of your comments here just like this when someone disagrees with you. Just stop — not everyone who sees things differently from you is unhappy with their life. And you don’t have all the wisdom in the world, even if you clearly believe you do.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
But seriously, guys? Excluding children?I think with the keyword "wedding planner," you’ve hit the nail on the head: the “culture” of a wedding following a hundred-percent perfect script seems to have caused some people to panic at the thought that an untrained little crumb of chance could sneak into such a schedule :-(Climbee schrieb:
And unfortunately, there are quite a few parents who think their children should always be the center of attention and treated as such.My circle of friends is completely “clean” of that, no nightmare school principal type parents there Wiesel29 schrieb:
The weddings we attended with a wedding planner involved were by far the most boring.You can’t hurry love; the same goes for the fun at a celebration. Wiesel29 schrieb:
I think it’s time for an Off-Topic section in this forum again.I completely agree. An Off-Topic section is an essential part of Off-Topic-free question threads. One-sided medals don’t work in the long run.https://www.instagram.com/11antgmxde/
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I have never been to a wedding with a wedding planner – should I be concerned???
At the most boring wedding I have ever attended, I had just recovered from a severe tonsillitis and could barely swallow, and when I could, only room-temperature drinks or food. Meaning: I couldn’t even make this disaster bearable by drinking – that was really tough!
At the most boring wedding I have ever attended, I had just recovered from a severe tonsillitis and could barely swallow, and when I could, only room-temperature drinks or food. Meaning: I couldn’t even make this disaster bearable by drinking – that was really tough!
Wiesel29 schrieb:
The weddings we attended that involved a wedding planner were by far the most boring That’s also been my experience. A sequence of clichés that the bride, in particular, has always wanted at her wedding. Everything has to be included, from the carriage to the white dove, the castle (garden), and everyone has to be perfect.
It’s like combining a Tuscan villa with smokey eye makeup.
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Sandrasix20 Apr 2020 17:25So, I have received feedback now.
The conversation did not go very well.
My construction manager told me that he simply refuses to understand.
He didn’t respond to any arguments.
“A very stubborn guy.”
When our construction manager tried to explain that we are not making any demands, he just said that he is also not making any demands regarding his garden fence.
The garden fence, like the rest of his house, is 3 cm (1 inch) on our property.
Our construction manager gave him a card in case he has any further questions.
That’s supposed to be it.
According to his experience, there will be problems with him on every trade.
He is not aware of his mistake (encroachment).
Tip from the construction manager:
Ignore him for now, unless he becomes abusive.
He still has a few options if necessary.
However, he cannot guarantee that he will continue to remain friendly towards him.
Let’s see what happens next.
The conversation did not go very well.
My construction manager told me that he simply refuses to understand.
He didn’t respond to any arguments.
“A very stubborn guy.”
When our construction manager tried to explain that we are not making any demands, he just said that he is also not making any demands regarding his garden fence.
The garden fence, like the rest of his house, is 3 cm (1 inch) on our property.
Our construction manager gave him a card in case he has any further questions.
That’s supposed to be it.
According to his experience, there will be problems with him on every trade.
He is not aware of his mistake (encroachment).
Tip from the construction manager:
Ignore him for now, unless he becomes abusive.
He still has a few options if necessary.
However, he cannot guarantee that he will continue to remain friendly towards him.
Let’s see what happens next.
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