Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
ypg schrieb:
Mine are also very loud. The girl screams constantly instead of talking. They don’t meet in person either, but just shout into the house when something happens. To me, part of upbringing is teaching the child that they’re not the only ones in the world. That you don’t have to shout all the time, and if you do, it should be inside. But if someone means only supervision instead of upbringing, then I just don’t understand that. There’s probably no common ground there. Yesterday I was lying in the garden on the lounger and played music loud enough that I couldn’t hear them. The kid actually came up to the garden fence several times and shouted something about “...neighbors.” She was practically screaming... I shouted back asking if I was too loud… after that, it became bearable.
A neighbor without children once told me: playing children are calming, and she’s right about that.
But there is a difference between playing and screaming. People who supervise children should be able to recognize that!
I don’t think that kind of noise is appropriate! Playing, yes; very loud, no. I can well imagine that @Joedreck doesn’t know the difference either as a parent… no offense, but if you reflect on others (neighbors, or your own children), you pay attention to the difference. Well yes, children are allowed to be loud. Especially when playing. They also always speak louder than adults. And yes, I also know the difference between loud, quiet, very loud, very quiet...
The problem is, it’s all very individual.
The same goes for the topic of upbringing. That’s why it’s simply not worth discussing these topics in general terms.
Of course I have my own opinion about volume and (lack of) upbringing of children. But it would never occur to me to discuss this with other people. Especially not with people without children.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
I’ve learned that children will (hopefully) pay for our retirement someday.Who told you that nonsense? Everyone pays for their own retirement. Or what did you think, why there is a net and gross amount on the pay slip?H
HilfeHilfe18 Apr 2020 13:39kaho674 schrieb:
Who taught you that nonsense? Everyone pays for their own retirement, or did you think that's why there is both a net and a gross amount on the payslip?Exactly, civil servants also pay for their own pensions.HilfeHilfe schrieb:
I learned that children will (hopefully) pay for our retirementHello HilfeHilfe
Wow, usually you’re not so naive.
The pension system is a pyramid scheme. It can’t work.
Of course, the system’s creators tell you it’s a perpetual motion machine.
According to your logic, every woman should have 12 children. Then we’d be doing really well.
The designers of the pension system already knew this setup would eventually (soon) blow up in our faces. But they didn’t care. As long as people keep repeating that “pensions are secure,” everything seems fine.
Steven
kaho674 schrieb:
Everyone pays for their own pension You do, but I don’t. Because I was born a few years earlier than you, I have to pay for my own pension and for that of the older generations.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
Civil servants also pay for their own pensions Other social benefits are taken into account for regular civil servants regarding their total compensation. Only the higher ranks and the employer benefit from the different system, as the employer avoids balancing contributions with other health insurance providers through the “free medical care” they provide.
But we don’t want to go deeper into this; a closer look would kill any casual pub talk.
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