Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
What we really dislike at weddings are those solo entertainer DJs. Of course, a wedding without music wouldn’t work, and it’s fine if the DJ makes a brief announcement or a light comment now and then. But we really had to convince our DJ not to entertain the guests with risqué jokes or party games. We simply find that very embarrassing and put a stop to it. Instead, we had brought our own carefully chosen performances. The guy behind the decks suffered a bit, but our guests and we were just relieved that no one had to make a fool of themselves.
We then assured him all that mattered was only perfect music for us. That calmed him down somewhat.
We then assured him all that mattered was only perfect music for us. That calmed him down somewhat.
Steven schrieb:
Here, all clichés are being used.
Someone who doesn’t want children at their wedding is a child hater.
Someone who doesn’t like dogs running between their feet while jogging is a dog hater.
Someone who doesn’t want cat droppings in their flower bed is a cat hater.
Someone who dislikes tobacco smoke and cigarettes is a killjoy.
Do you notice something? I don’t think so.
You missed this one:
Someone who doesn’t like clichés is a smart aleck.
Sandrasix schrieb:
So, I have now received some feedback.
The conversation didn’t go very well.
My construction manager told me that he simply doesn’t want to understand.
He didn’t engage with any arguments.
“A very stubborn person.”
When our construction manager tried to explain that we are not making any demands, he just said that he also doesn’t make demands regarding his garden fence.
The garden fence, like the rest of his house, is 3 cm (1.2 inches) onto our property.
Our construction manager gave him a card in case he has any further questions.
That was supposed to be it.
According to his experience, there will be problems with him in every trade.
He is not aware of his mistake (encroachment).
Tip from the construction manager:
Ignore him for now unless he becomes aggressive.
He still has a few options if necessary.
However, he cannot guarantee that he will continue to remain friendly with him.
Let’s see what else will happen. If this is exactly right, then the neighbor is an idiot....
Sometimes a three-way conversation helps, sometimes it makes things worse; maybe try talking one-on-one? Maybe offer a beer/wine/water while doing so.
Fingers crossed for you!!
S
Sandrasix20 Apr 2020 18:46tumaa schrieb:
If it matches 1:1, then Nachar is an idiot....
Sometimes a conversation with three people helps, sometimes it makes things worse. Maybe try talking one-on-one?.. and perhaps offer a beer/wine/water.
Fingers crossed for you!!Well, we’ll just wait and see for now. Maybe he first needs some time to get used to it.
That has its advantages too.
He’s observing everything. Maybe he’ll even notice a mistake.
He’s practically living on our construction site.
S
Sandrasix20 Apr 2020 18:52kaho674 schrieb:
@Sandrasix What happened with the fence? Did you knock it over?When our architect realized he had built over the boundary, we talked to him about it at the time. We were able to calm him down quickly.
He just asked whether he would need a lawyer now.
I told him he didn’t need a lawyer, just a cold beer when we move in.
That settled the matter for us.