Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
Steven schrieb:
Hello tumaa,
this would then be "free market economy" combined with "freedom of contract." It has nothing to do with hate, but with convenience.
If nobody is interested in a restaurant like that, no one will go in. Therefore, the business fails.
But that doesn’t work in Germany, because there is no "freedom of contract" (in many, but not all, areas).
StevenHi Steven,
those were examples, so why don’t you address the other points?
Sorry, but didn’t you say: I’m out…?
Otherwise, welcome back.
Steven schrieb:
I am stepping back a bit now. It’s just going in circles. It doesn’t help. Steven Hello tumaa
See, this is a very good example you provided: I wrote, "I am stepping back a bit now." You interpret it as: "I’m out." Steven
Steven schrieb:
Hello tumaa
Here you see a very good example you provided: I wrote, "I’m stepping back a bit now."
You interpreted it as, "I’m out."
Steven That’s why the question mark was there... if it came across differently, I take it back!
What a silly professor. What’s so bad about child-free restaurants, hotels, or similar places?
It’s better than forcing people who just want to eat or vacation in peace to listen to children shouting. I also appreciate having quiet, for example, at a spa that is only open to guests aged 16 and over.
There are advantages, for example, when I want to have a romantic dinner with my partner and can choose a restaurant where, at the very moment I present my loved one with a diamond ring and pop the big question, no little rascal zooms by like a helicopter. That’s great!
There are also family-friendly hotels – I know what to expect there. If I want peace and quiet, that would be the wrong place for me. Families can be sure their children can play freely without half the people in the dining room raising their eyebrows in annoyance.
In my opinion, hotels and restaurants designed for different needs really make sense!
My brother and sister-in-law, parents of three children, also find it wonderful when we take care of the kids for a weekend and they can visit exactly these kinds of child-free hotels or at least enjoy a day at the spa as a couple without the noise of children. They love their children and their kids are well-behaved, but lively and loud – just like all children.
It’s better than forcing people who just want to eat or vacation in peace to listen to children shouting. I also appreciate having quiet, for example, at a spa that is only open to guests aged 16 and over.
There are advantages, for example, when I want to have a romantic dinner with my partner and can choose a restaurant where, at the very moment I present my loved one with a diamond ring and pop the big question, no little rascal zooms by like a helicopter. That’s great!
There are also family-friendly hotels – I know what to expect there. If I want peace and quiet, that would be the wrong place for me. Families can be sure their children can play freely without half the people in the dining room raising their eyebrows in annoyance.
In my opinion, hotels and restaurants designed for different needs really make sense!
My brother and sister-in-law, parents of three children, also find it wonderful when we take care of the kids for a weekend and they can visit exactly these kinds of child-free hotels or at least enjoy a day at the spa as a couple without the noise of children. They love their children and their kids are well-behaved, but lively and loud – just like all children.
Climbee schrieb:
It’s definitely better than forcing people who just want to eat in peace or relax on vacation to listen to children screaming. I also appreciate having some quiet time, for example in spa facilities that are only for guests aged 16 and over.
There are advantages, for instance, if I want to have a romantic dinner with my partner, I can choose a restaurant where, at the moment I present my loved one with a diamond ring and the big question, no little troublemaker is running around like a helicopter. That’s just great!
There are also family hotels—so you know what to expect. If I want peace and quiet, those would be completely the wrong place for me. And families can be sure that their kids are allowed to play freely without half the people in the dining room raising their eyebrows annoyed.
In my opinion, having hotels and restaurants designed for different needs really makes sense!
My brother and sister-in-law, parents of three children, also appreciate it when we take the kids for a weekend and they can visit THESE child-free hotels or at least enjoy a day at the spa WITHOUT noisy children, just as a couple. They love their kids and their children are well-behaved, but lively and loud—just like all kids.I totally agree with you!!!
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Alessandro20 Apr 2020 10:49I was planning to get married this year, and we decided to have the celebration without children (at least the party). The reactions varied a lot. What I found most upsetting was that some guests immediately reacted by accusing us of being "anti-children."
You just have to explain your reasons for this decision to those people. However, some show such a lack of understanding that even the most logical explanations don’t help.
You just have to explain your reasons for this decision to those people. However, some show such a lack of understanding that even the most logical explanations don’t help.