Good day!
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
That provides good entertainment value for a Sunday.
@Klangvoll or Pianist, your problem is definitely not a house in a supposedly unattractive location.
Most people become independent from their parents at some point (about 20 years earlier than you), and that should be your next step as well. And yes, you can do that even if your parents live next door.
Best regards
Guitar, uh.. flute
@Klangvoll or Pianist, your problem is definitely not a house in a supposedly unattractive location.
Most people become independent from their parents at some point (about 20 years earlier than you), and that should be your next step as well. And yes, you can do that even if your parents live next door.
Best regards
Guitar, uh.. flute
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Klangvoll16 Feb 2020 14:23And how exactly am I supposed to do that? Recently, my mother said to me in a very serious tone, "Something is bothering me. I happened to see you leave the house yesterday at 10 PM. Should I be worried? I couldn't sleep all night."
The truth was, I had been so busy with work that I forgot to have dinner and then went to the kebab shop.
The truth was, I had been so busy with work that I forgot to have dinner and then went to the kebab shop.
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Pinkiponk16 Feb 2020 15:02Klangvoll schrieb:
What is it like, for example, to live on a boat? Living on a boat, if it’s comfortable, I think is great. My husband and I also considered it, but it didn’t work out for various reasons. It definitely seems interesting and not mainstream.
Klangvoll schrieb:
Would that be seen as innovative? Or would it create the image of a socially reclusive eccentric? In my opinion, that could fit well in Berlin, without you being perceived as socially reclusive or eccentric because of it. It’s original in a positive sense and fits, admittedly stereotypically, somehow with Berlin.
Klangvoll schrieb:
I just need to make sure I can continue my work there, since my recording studio is currently in my basement... That might be a workable compromise for you and your parents. You work as before in your basement but live somewhere else. For most people, workplace and home are separate. I don’t know how feasible that is in your profession. Perhaps your boat could be large enough to also work on it, provided the technical conditions are met.
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Reinhard84.216 Feb 2020 15:33Bookstar schrieb:
That sounds very ideological. Maybe it’s worth considering if that’s the right approach. I would also have a problem if my future partner voted Green or Left, but that wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. Likewise, if they were religious, I could accept that. A person is much more than that. Just a thought.I would also be reluctant to date Nazis. Belief, care for the environment, and the dream of a more supportive, humane world are something different from following a misanthropic ideology under whose name millions have been murdered.
