Good day!
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
Ibdk14 schrieb:
but please move this to another thread.However, there is no off-topic section in this forum.
pffreestyler schrieb:
Oh, come on. The original poster just watched the movie "Virgin (40), Male, Seeking" and decided they needed a change of pace, using the film as inspiration. Then they created a second troll account and got started.
I'm pretty sure they're not the only one using multiple accounts here. Well, if you’re so sure, then go ahead. I’m just not convinced that it’s right to judge and expose someone based on their statements.
It is probably also a matter of the goal: a long-term relationship or a short fling.
The concept of a "trendy music producer on a stylish houseboat" is likely a promising approach for the latter.
The former will fail, at the latest, when meeting the mother for the first time.
Even though I hold both SBF and SKS licenses and would personally lean towards a "livable" yacht, the personal image is probably better represented by a houseboat like the one shown. Pump toilets that don’t allow paper are not really practical for everyday use, especially for women.
The concept of a "trendy music producer on a stylish houseboat" is likely a promising approach for the latter.
The former will fail, at the latest, when meeting the mother for the first time.
Even though I hold both SBF and SKS licenses and would personally lean towards a "livable" yacht, the personal image is probably better represented by a houseboat like the one shown. Pump toilets that don’t allow paper are not really practical for everyday use, especially for women.
Ah, it’s really nice here!
By the way, someone from the Berlin surrounding area once had the same problem and a similar self-perception!
To contribute something here, a tip for the original poster:
- Have your inheritance paid out in advance by dividing your parents’ property.
- Sell the place against your parents’ wishes (since it would then be yours) (problem 1 solved).
- Then take your €650,000 (about $690,000) and invest it here, then move to Thailand.
- There, you’ll find women (problem 2 solved) or other people, cheap food and alcohol, sun, beach, and (house) boats for your budget until the end of your life.
- And you won’t have to work anymore!
…you might feel like I’m joking, but I’m completely serious.
By the way, someone from the Berlin surrounding area once had the same problem and a similar self-perception!
To contribute something here, a tip for the original poster:
- Have your inheritance paid out in advance by dividing your parents’ property.
- Sell the place against your parents’ wishes (since it would then be yours) (problem 1 solved).
- Then take your €650,000 (about $690,000) and invest it here, then move to Thailand.
- There, you’ll find women (problem 2 solved) or other people, cheap food and alcohol, sun, beach, and (house) boats for your budget until the end of your life.
- And you won’t have to work anymore!
…you might feel like I’m joking, but I’m completely serious.
Zaba12 schrieb:
By the way, we already had someone here from the Berlin outskirts who experienced the same problem or had the same self-perception!We also had someone here who mentioned this on page 1 of the thread.