Good day!
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
May I please tap into the collective intelligence of this forum for a very basic question? I assume many people here have given a lot of thought to the topic of "living," so I hope to get some input.
First of all: Twenty years ago, I built a house on my parents’ property in a suburb of Berlin. I was in my mid-20s at the time. Now I am in my mid-40s and still live there alone, because this type of living arrangement (house with a garden in a suburb and my parents right next door) seems to be a total deal-breaker for women in Berlin. I should mention that I don’t generally have much luck with women and have to fight hard for every single date. Whenever a woman did come over—which was very rare—that was also the last date.
Now I’m wondering: What are my chances of changing my living situation? And what kind of living arrangement would better suit my situation? Obviously, the house with the garden is not the answer. I spent three years building it at the time and mostly paid from ongoing income, since I’ve always had good projects and earned well. Since moving in, I have been investing the monthly rent I was saving into a stock fund, and I now have about 400,000 EUR (about $440,000) saved up. Of course, that’s not enough for a plot of land and a new house somewhere else. I also don’t want to get into debt.
I cannot sell my house, since it is built on my parents’ land. From what I understand, the property still legally belongs to my parents, even though I paid for the construction. Renting it out is not an option either, since my parents don’t want strangers on their property. Leaving it empty is out of the question for me because of my social conscience, and it would also be economically pointless.
What options do you see? I have never lived in a rented apartment or a multi-family building, so I don’t know if owning a condominium (flat/apartment) would be a solution for me. I am always worried that someone above me might fall asleep with a cigarette or someone next door might tamper with their gas heating.
I am open to all ideas, including ones I haven’t thought of yet. I can even imagine buying a boat and living on it year-round. I could partly offset the cost of the mooring by no longer needing a cleaning service. This would also allow me to adapt my place of residence flexibly according to circumstances. For example, when others have to leave their apartments because a bomb needs to be defused nearby, I could simply move my floating home outside the evacuation zone for that time. That doesn’t sound too bad. I just don’t know how that would go over with women. It probably can’t be worse than now…
What do you think?
Sebastian
K
Klangvoll16 Feb 2020 12:30I can’t do that to my parents by demanding a real division of the property. That would completely upset their world. They are already old and need me.
opalau schrieb:
Twin?
https://www.hausbau-forum.de/threads/grundsatzfrage-Grundstück-auf-vorrat-erwerben.27148/ Renowned pianist... Sebastian Matthias...
My investigative mind sees parallels
But never mind, as long as the entertainment value is right
Klangvoll schrieb:
Well, in every housing market, the neighborhood you live in is usually one of the first questions women ask...What questions? Every question honestly allows alternative answers as options...A
allstar8316 Feb 2020 12:34Klangvoll schrieb:
I have been using all kinds of dating apps for 20 years and have been on hundreds of dates. I have also used Tinder. It always comes down to the same thing: the women are not interested in me.Try picking up new hobbies? Learn guitar or piano and play in a band, get involved in leisure activities, lower your expectations sometimes, and try not to focus on every little flaw during dates?These are all things I consider promising based on my own experience or what I’ve seen with friends ... Complaining doesn’t help.
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Klangvoll16 Feb 2020 12:34I am not here to entertain anyone, but to find solutions for my life. Somehow, I am in a situation I can’t get out of. I would need to do many things very differently than before, but I see hardly any possibilities to bring about the necessary changes.
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Klangvoll16 Feb 2020 12:38Somehow, I’m having trouble with the quoting function here...
My profession is also my hobby, and I make quite a lot of money from it. Piano was my main instrument during my studies. However, I have no free time because I’m fully booked. It really wasn’t due to my standards; most of the rejections usually came from the women. I only declined when, during the date, it became clear that the person was a “concerned citizen” or an AfD supporter.
My profession is also my hobby, and I make quite a lot of money from it. Piano was my main instrument during my studies. However, I have no free time because I’m fully booked. It really wasn’t due to my standards; most of the rejections usually came from the women. I only declined when, during the date, it became clear that the person was a “concerned citizen” or an AfD supporter.