ᐅ Building a house or buying one? Children already 13 and 15 years old...
Created on: 30 Mar 2019 18:31
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Thierse
The children are already quite grown (13 and 15 years old). Is it still worth considering buying or building a house at this stage?
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
Forget about that quickly. You might be lucky or you might not.
Your children will eventually have their own lives with their own problems. Where that will be is unknown.
There is also a certain superficiality. The grandfather who lives in another house quickly becomes out of sight and out of mind.
I had to learn this lesson before I was even 20.
Blood means nothing.
Take a look around with open eyes.
For many people, there is only one child involved even if they have two, three, or four.
Even fewer grandchildren.
What’s wrong with a visit once a week or 10 minutes every day for the support stockings?
Do you think that only childless people hope for weekly visits in care homes?
Your children will eventually have their own lives with their own problems. Where that will be is unknown.
There is also a certain superficiality. The grandfather who lives in another house quickly becomes out of sight and out of mind.
I had to learn this lesson before I was even 20.
Blood means nothing.
Take a look around with open eyes.
For many people, there is only one child involved even if they have two, three, or four.
Even fewer grandchildren.
What’s wrong with a visit once a week or 10 minutes every day for the support stockings?
Do you think that only childless people hope for weekly visits in care homes?
haydee schrieb:
Forget about that quickly. You might be lucky or you might not.
Your children will eventually have their own lives with their own problems. Where they will be is unknown.
There is also a certain superficiality. Grandpa, who lives in another house, quickly becomes out of sight and out of mind.
I had to learn that lesson before I was even 20.
Blood means nothing.
Take a look around with open eyes.
For many, only one child is involved, even if there are two, three, or four.
Grandchildren even less so.
What is one visit a week or 10 minutes daily for compression stockings?
Do you think only childless people in nursing homes hope for weekly visits?Conflicts can even develop, but that is not what I mean, nor should it be a reason to exclude someone.
The grandfather who is forgotten is the result of selfishness.
tumaa schrieb:
Answer: 90% said "loneliness"Many of those feeling lonely today have children. And this thought makes them feel lonelier than the fact of not having children.
ypg schrieb:
Many of those who feel lonely today have children. And this thought is more isolating than the fact of not having children.So the logical/safe choice = a pet :-) ... better safe than sorry 😀
tumaa schrieb:
so the logical/safe decision = a pet 🙂...better safe than sorry 😀I don’t know what you mean. I have nothing to do with pets.
If you mean someone else, please quote them, not me, especially not in a context that has nothing to do with me.
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Grantlhaua2 Apr 2019 14:49Plan the house right from the start with a granny flat or separate apartment for the children. I know many families where the kids live in the same house as the parents but in two distinct areas. And if the children eventually move out, you can rent out the apartment and have a nice source of income for retirement.