ᐅ Building a house or buying one? Children already 13 and 15 years old...
Created on: 30 Mar 2019 18:31
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The children are already quite grown (13 and 15 years old). Is it still worth considering buying or building a house at this stage?
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
So why build a house then?Because sometimes you build for yourself. Capisce?
Bookstar schrieb:
We have also built a home and do not want children, as we consider them pests and prefer to live without them. We have a cat, which is enough.
So I wouldn’t make it dependent on that, but rather on many other criteria...Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but to me, this sounds like you are comparing pets to children or suggesting that pets represent children... disgusting.
Of course, a relationship between parents and children can be broken, but that is not always the case.
A study was once conducted with seniors, asking them what they feared most.
Answer: 90% said "loneliness."
Maybe one day cats will learn to talk... perhaps through a software update.
HilfeHilfe schrieb:
Exactly, a bungalow or at most a condominium with a garden. A house without children—what for?Let me guess, you don’t have a car but a cabin scooter 🙂
tumaa schrieb:
A study was once conducted with seniors, and they were asked what they feared the most.
Answer: 90% said "loneliness"Having children as protection against loneliness in old age? I'm not sure if that's the right approach...Niloa schrieb:
Children as protection against loneliness in old age? I'm not sure if that's the right approach...Protection is probably not the right word... but if one day you are alone and your partner is no longer around, I imagine it would be very difficult. In such cases, it can be very comforting if the children visit from time to time, since people need social interaction—especially if they have physical limitations.
Children are a part of the picture, no more and no less.
A functioning social environment helps: neighbors, friends, clubs, etc.
I don’t want to have to wait for the children to come by. Where do they live?
With family in the house or nearby?
Somewhere in Germany or even abroad?
A functioning social environment helps: neighbors, friends, clubs, etc.
I don’t want to have to wait for the children to come by. Where do they live?
With family in the house or nearby?
Somewhere in Germany or even abroad?
haydee schrieb:
Children are one building block, no more and no less.
What helps is a functioning social environment—
neighbors, friends, clubs, etc.
I don’t want to have to wait for the children to come by. Where do they live?
With family in the house or nearby?
Somewhere in Germany or even abroad?Of course, the social environment is very important... but when things really get tough, a club or neighbor won’t help you much, because blood is thicker ;-)!