ᐅ Building a house or buying one? Children already 13 and 15 years old...
Created on: 30 Mar 2019 18:31
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Thierse
The children are already quite grown (13 and 15 years old). Is it still worth considering buying or building a house at this stage?
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
Or would it be better to continue renting and later, when the kids have moved out, buy something more suitable for our age?
We own a plot of land (no building obligation). So far, we live in a rental apartment, which is quite affordable but unfortunately without a garden, which would be nice. Affordable rental houses or apartments with gardens are scarce in the region.
How do you view the issue of houses and children? We are also wondering how large we should build since it is unclear if any child will stay at home or not. This also affects construction costs and future maintenance. We are not very keen on being tenants.
ypg schrieb:
You often don’t choose your fate... as for “little pests,” I’m happy that my new neighbor’s expecting a baby over the winter and that she’s having a second one.
I chose to live without children and bought my own house at 30. Then I built again at 45. With my father’s genes, I might still enjoy the garden healthy (more or less, plus a crystal ball) at 80.
That would be 50 years of happiness in my own home with a garden – and no kids. Should I have just stayed in an apartment?That’s a great attitude!!!!
A friend built a new house and the neighbors sold theirs because he had children. He didn’t even get the chance to imagine otherwise… and I find it just sick to see kids as a “nuisance,” even if it’s meant humorously.
Elina schrieb:
It’s not like tenants have loads of extra cash compared to homeowners. Especially nowadays.
Having children doesn’t protect from loneliness either. My husband’s grandmother – he hadn’t been to see her for 14 years – recently died lonely in a nursing home. None of her children wanted her in their own homes.
I last saw my family in 2012. I’m not even counting my father because he’s not really part of the family. By the way, my father has 5 children, but none of them want to see him anymore; he’ll probably die alone too.
Disputes or indifference in families are more common than people think.
The elderly in nursing homes often don’t see their children for months (my mother once worked there and reported this).
Yes, you can’t take your house with you to the grave, and I have no desire to leave it to anyone. So we’ll just sell it in time and spend the money appropriately. That’s how we plan to handle it.
My family line ends with me, and I’m totally okay with that. At least I can say that no child suffered because of me, unlike my own (completely unfit) parents, who thought they would do better than their parents but just made things worse. At least I can say no child had to suffer because of me.Having a family doesn’t always mean everyone gets along well. When things go wrong, everyone tends to blame the other instead of looking at themselves. It’s a vicious cycle, just like a relationship between a man and a woman. Anyone can start one, but keeping it together – that’s the real challenge!!!!!!!!!!
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HilfeHilfe2 Apr 2019 21:04My parents were harsh! My father only knew the belt! Typical Serbian. No talking, just hitting! Now I have children. I have a neutral relationship with my parents; to my kids, they are Grandma and Grandpa. The children love them, and now they are old, the hand doesn’t slip anymore. I don’t demand anything, only that they are good to the children. They can keep the house, but I don’t want anything else to do with it.
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hampshire2 Apr 2019 22:20Regarding the initial question: Build now if you want to build. Give the children space that you can later use yourself or, if necessary, rent out as emergency income.
Regarding the discussion about children: I find the term “little pests” disrespectful towards these young people. No one has to justify whether they want children or not.
Regarding the discussion about children: I find the term “little pests” disrespectful towards these young people. No one has to justify whether they want children or not.
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hampshire3 Apr 2019 17:40haydee schrieb:
@hampshire
That’s why I suggested your floor plan. It fits better than the typical family houses. I’m honored! Thank you.