ᐅ Dissatisfied with new construction due to other options now available
Created on: 27 Sep 2021 12:51
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Crossy
I was just about to create a second account for this thread, but in the end, I decided against it. I’m not even sure if this thread belongs in the financing section. The purpose of this thread is not to show off; I’ve been thinking about this for a while now, and my dissatisfaction is growing. Maybe some of you have had similar experiences, and I would be interested to know what you did.
I’m unhappy with our house. Not because it has any serious defects. It suits our current life situation, we have enough space, and next spring the garden will finally be finished and look great. Like many others, during the planning and construction phase, we set priorities because of our budget and gave up on some nice extras. Now, nearly 2 years after the financing was completed, our financial situation has changed significantly.
When we arranged the financing, I was just returning to work after my second parental leave, filling in as a temporary replacement during another parental leave. I knew the job was poorly paid (considering the required qualifications), but the overall package worked well, and I was confident I could manage it alongside the children. I always believed I would earn more in the long term and that this was only a transition back to work. Nevertheless, we based our financing on our income at the time because the financial future, even with good prospects, was uncertain. Therefore, we chose a more conservative approach and did not rely on future salary increases or push our budget to the limit.
Now, almost 2 years later, our financial situation looks completely different. I’m still with the same company but no longer in a temporary replacement role—I’m now a department head, and I have increased my working hours to fulfill this leadership position. Meanwhile, my husband has changed employers and was promoted. All in all, our combined income is about $4,000 more per month. And now I am annoyed by all the little things in the house that, in hindsight, wouldn’t have been a problem for us. With an additional $100,000–150,000, our house would be my dream home.
Many things cannot be retrofitted easily or without significant effort. I wish my dissatisfaction would fade over time so I could enjoy our very nice house and our financial freedom, but mentally I am thinking about selling and looking at plots nearby. My husband is bothered by a few things in the house as well but is generally more content and mainly wary of the hassle involved in building a new house.
I’m unhappy with our house. Not because it has any serious defects. It suits our current life situation, we have enough space, and next spring the garden will finally be finished and look great. Like many others, during the planning and construction phase, we set priorities because of our budget and gave up on some nice extras. Now, nearly 2 years after the financing was completed, our financial situation has changed significantly.
When we arranged the financing, I was just returning to work after my second parental leave, filling in as a temporary replacement during another parental leave. I knew the job was poorly paid (considering the required qualifications), but the overall package worked well, and I was confident I could manage it alongside the children. I always believed I would earn more in the long term and that this was only a transition back to work. Nevertheless, we based our financing on our income at the time because the financial future, even with good prospects, was uncertain. Therefore, we chose a more conservative approach and did not rely on future salary increases or push our budget to the limit.
Now, almost 2 years later, our financial situation looks completely different. I’m still with the same company but no longer in a temporary replacement role—I’m now a department head, and I have increased my working hours to fulfill this leadership position. Meanwhile, my husband has changed employers and was promoted. All in all, our combined income is about $4,000 more per month. And now I am annoyed by all the little things in the house that, in hindsight, wouldn’t have been a problem for us. With an additional $100,000–150,000, our house would be my dream home.
Many things cannot be retrofitted easily or without significant effort. I wish my dissatisfaction would fade over time so I could enjoy our very nice house and our financial freedom, but mentally I am thinking about selling and looking at plots nearby. My husband is bothered by a few things in the house as well but is generally more content and mainly wary of the hassle involved in building a new house.
haydee schrieb:
Unsatisfied with the home. That would imply that the new house was a temporary solution. I don’t see it that way. First of all, I am simply unsatisfied, not deeply unhappy. For me, there is a big difference there.
What makes me unsatisfied is that, from today’s perspective, I know I could have achieved a higher level of success—depending on what was possible. Without the possibility, I would still recognize the "need for improvement" (I already did during the planning phase), but it would be my optimal level of success and I would accept that. I don’t believe you should only strive for something "better" if you have to tolerate glaring defects. Applying this to other areas, not just houses, would mean that no one would want anything above average or special in any area. The world would look much duller and less vibrant or interesting that way.
Schimi179128 Sep 2021 13:3711ant schrieb:
Well, the project "connecting children with playmates" definitely presents a challenging task.Children can connect—at least in the digital world—quite well, in my opinion, thanks to platforms like TikTok, Snapchat, etc. In the real world, it often requires trial and error. We have tried youth firefighting groups, archery, dancing, music, and so on. Of course, not all at once. It becomes truly challenging to guide a child along a life path and to impart one’s own—hopefully honorable—virtues and values. Not to mention the challenges of puberty.
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Myrna_Loy28 Sep 2021 13:40Crossy schrieb:
I don’t see it that way. First of all, I am simply dissatisfied, not deeply unhappy. For me, that’s a big difference.
What makes me dissatisfied is knowing now, in hindsight, that I could have achieved a higher level of success, depending on what was possible. Without the possibility, I would recognize the "need for optimization" (which I already did during the planning phase), but that would represent my optimal level of success and I would consider it settled. I don’t believe that one should only strive for something "better" if obvious defects have to be endured. If you transfer that idea to other areas beyond housing, it would mean no one would want anything above average or special in any field. That would make the world a much duller and less colorful/interesting place. But with increasing income, that standard rises indefinitely, so satisfaction can never really be achieved. 🙂
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Oetzberger28 Sep 2021 13:44Why the existential crisis? If you want a conservatory, then just build it. You can also retrofit a smart home system via wireless if you really need it. Otherwise, I would personally invest the money in a properly sized garden.
We started out with a larger financial buffer than you unexpectedly have now, and still only built what was reasonable. Do I miss anything now? A clear no. I simply found other hobbies once the house-building stress was over, like a lot of sports. It really helps to clear your mind...
And the improvement from the previous tiny rental apartment to our own newly built house was so significant that any further upgrades would only be incremental and rather insignificant.
We started out with a larger financial buffer than you unexpectedly have now, and still only built what was reasonable. Do I miss anything now? A clear no. I simply found other hobbies once the house-building stress was over, like a lot of sports. It really helps to clear your mind...
And the improvement from the previous tiny rental apartment to our own newly built house was so significant that any further upgrades would only be incremental and rather insignificant.
Myrna_Loy schrieb:
However, with a rising salary, the potential is unlimited upwards, so a state of satisfaction can never truly be reached. 🙂 The goal itself was already defined 3-4 years ago. Nothing has changed since then.
I never claimed that building or making changes is only allowed when there are obvious defects.
If the new construction contributes to your goal achievement level and optimizes your, well, what exactly? then go ahead and build anew. Just make sure that the target size is not expanded too much upward and the goal achievement level decreases despite a higher input of resources.
After all, the axiom of insatiability comes into play here.
If the new construction contributes to your goal achievement level and optimizes your, well, what exactly? then go ahead and build anew. Just make sure that the target size is not expanded too much upward and the goal achievement level decreases despite a higher input of resources.
After all, the axiom of insatiability comes into play here.
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