ᐅ Dissatisfied with new construction due to other options now available
Created on: 27 Sep 2021 12:51
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Crossy
I was just about to create a second account for this thread, but in the end, I decided against it. I’m not even sure if this thread belongs in the financing section. The purpose of this thread is not to show off; I’ve been thinking about this for a while now, and my dissatisfaction is growing. Maybe some of you have had similar experiences, and I would be interested to know what you did.
I’m unhappy with our house. Not because it has any serious defects. It suits our current life situation, we have enough space, and next spring the garden will finally be finished and look great. Like many others, during the planning and construction phase, we set priorities because of our budget and gave up on some nice extras. Now, nearly 2 years after the financing was completed, our financial situation has changed significantly.
When we arranged the financing, I was just returning to work after my second parental leave, filling in as a temporary replacement during another parental leave. I knew the job was poorly paid (considering the required qualifications), but the overall package worked well, and I was confident I could manage it alongside the children. I always believed I would earn more in the long term and that this was only a transition back to work. Nevertheless, we based our financing on our income at the time because the financial future, even with good prospects, was uncertain. Therefore, we chose a more conservative approach and did not rely on future salary increases or push our budget to the limit.
Now, almost 2 years later, our financial situation looks completely different. I’m still with the same company but no longer in a temporary replacement role—I’m now a department head, and I have increased my working hours to fulfill this leadership position. Meanwhile, my husband has changed employers and was promoted. All in all, our combined income is about $4,000 more per month. And now I am annoyed by all the little things in the house that, in hindsight, wouldn’t have been a problem for us. With an additional $100,000–150,000, our house would be my dream home.
Many things cannot be retrofitted easily or without significant effort. I wish my dissatisfaction would fade over time so I could enjoy our very nice house and our financial freedom, but mentally I am thinking about selling and looking at plots nearby. My husband is bothered by a few things in the house as well but is generally more content and mainly wary of the hassle involved in building a new house.
I’m unhappy with our house. Not because it has any serious defects. It suits our current life situation, we have enough space, and next spring the garden will finally be finished and look great. Like many others, during the planning and construction phase, we set priorities because of our budget and gave up on some nice extras. Now, nearly 2 years after the financing was completed, our financial situation has changed significantly.
When we arranged the financing, I was just returning to work after my second parental leave, filling in as a temporary replacement during another parental leave. I knew the job was poorly paid (considering the required qualifications), but the overall package worked well, and I was confident I could manage it alongside the children. I always believed I would earn more in the long term and that this was only a transition back to work. Nevertheless, we based our financing on our income at the time because the financial future, even with good prospects, was uncertain. Therefore, we chose a more conservative approach and did not rely on future salary increases or push our budget to the limit.
Now, almost 2 years later, our financial situation looks completely different. I’m still with the same company but no longer in a temporary replacement role—I’m now a department head, and I have increased my working hours to fulfill this leadership position. Meanwhile, my husband has changed employers and was promoted. All in all, our combined income is about $4,000 more per month. And now I am annoyed by all the little things in the house that, in hindsight, wouldn’t have been a problem for us. With an additional $100,000–150,000, our house would be my dream home.
Many things cannot be retrofitted easily or without significant effort. I wish my dissatisfaction would fade over time so I could enjoy our very nice house and our financial freedom, but mentally I am thinking about selling and looking at plots nearby. My husband is bothered by a few things in the house as well but is generally more content and mainly wary of the hassle involved in building a new house.
But that was back in the good old days, when the butler took the jackets and brought them to a separate room, and the servants—or rather the working class—worked in a separate kitchen wing, cheaper without benefits, collective agreements, or anything like that...
Back then, if I were a woman, marked by lack of healthcare, poor diet, and no money. Sleeping in the unheated room above the kitchen with the dining table, and my only jacket hanging by the door. When the masters came to Kissingen for their health cure, I would try again to find work as a maid, so at least I wouldn’t take food away from the old folks and children. Maybe I’d be lucky, like my great-grandmother, and receive fabric scraps from a wealthy lady, so my children could have warm clothes for the next winter. I put the pot with the pig potatoes (small or slightly green or no longer really edible potatoes for the pigs) on the stove and cook apple puree. Tomorrow I’ll go to the forest to gather acorns, chestnuts, and the last elderberries. The pigs still need to put on fat; there were too few potatoes and grains. It won’t be enough to last through the winter.
Back then, if I were a woman, marked by lack of healthcare, poor diet, and no money. Sleeping in the unheated room above the kitchen with the dining table, and my only jacket hanging by the door. When the masters came to Kissingen for their health cure, I would try again to find work as a maid, so at least I wouldn’t take food away from the old folks and children. Maybe I’d be lucky, like my great-grandmother, and receive fabric scraps from a wealthy lady, so my children could have warm clothes for the next winter. I put the pot with the pig potatoes (small or slightly green or no longer really edible potatoes for the pigs) on the stove and cook apple puree. Tomorrow I’ll go to the forest to gather acorns, chestnuts, and the last elderberries. The pigs still need to put on fat; there were too few potatoes and grains. It won’t be enough to last through the winter.
guckuck2 schrieb:
The problem with the aircraft carrier is the amount of running around. Long rows are simply impractical, even more so when you have to walk all the way around them. That’s probably why the term has a negative connotation.I never would have thought that “aircraft carrier” is a derogatory term. In my view, there are few things I find more fascinating than (real) aircraft carriers.
Schimi17911 Oct 2021 20:58aero2016 schrieb:
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In my opinion, there are few things more exciting than (real) aircraft carriers.Definitely since Top Gun and Hot Shots ... 😀Even if you were to build new, in the end you would still consider making changes.
There are hardly any people who build today and are completely satisfied afterward. This has always been the case. Quite simply, many things only become clear through living in the house, with daily habits. And most come from different living arrangements.
You don’t need to have everything. Enjoy your house and accept it as it is.
There are hardly any people who build today and are completely satisfied afterward. This has always been the case. Quite simply, many things only become clear through living in the house, with daily habits. And most come from different living arrangements.
You don’t need to have everything. Enjoy your house and accept it as it is.
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Pinkiponk3 Oct 2021 10:38aero2016 schrieb:
I would never have thought that "aircraft carrier" is a derogatory term.
In my view, there are few things I find more exciting than (real) aircraft carriers. I am always very impressed whenever I see them in an action movie or similar. Great stuff.
haydee schrieb:
@Crossy are you continuing with the exterior landscaping, or are you putting everything on hold until you decide how to proceed?
Of course, we are continuing with the exterior landscaping. Even if we are building a new house, it will surely take at least 3 years until we move in. So the garden needs to be usable for us here in the meantime.