ᐅ Choosing a Place to Live with Your Partner – How to Reach Agreement
Created on: 6 Jan 2020 15:34
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PepeLupado
Hello everyone,
I have been a more or less silent reader here for some time now.
But now I would like to ask a question and hope that I’ve come to the right forum and that it hasn’t been asked before (at least I haven’t found anything).
How did you and your partner agree on where to move?
Did you create a list of pros and cons?
A little about us and our background:
We are a married couple with one child and another on the way.
She is from a small town with 7,610 inhabitants and I come from a small village with a total of 8,100 inhabitants. Both places are about 13 m (8 miles) apart.
Kindergarten, primary school, and corner shop are close by in both places.
In the village, stores like Lidl are about 4 km (2.5 miles) away.
I love the peace and quiet and the closer connection to nature there, but she thinks it would be too quiet. It’s often the case that people want to live where they grew up.
I would appreciate any suggestions and opinions.
I have been a more or less silent reader here for some time now.
But now I would like to ask a question and hope that I’ve come to the right forum and that it hasn’t been asked before (at least I haven’t found anything).
How did you and your partner agree on where to move?
Did you create a list of pros and cons?
A little about us and our background:
We are a married couple with one child and another on the way.
She is from a small town with 7,610 inhabitants and I come from a small village with a total of 8,100 inhabitants. Both places are about 13 m (8 miles) apart.
Kindergarten, primary school, and corner shop are close by in both places.
In the village, stores like Lidl are about 4 km (2.5 miles) away.
I love the peace and quiet and the closer connection to nature there, but she thinks it would be too quiet. It’s often the case that people want to live where they grew up.
I would appreciate any suggestions and opinions.
Zauberwesen7 Jan 2020 21:09Musketier schrieb:
Many here would probably say that this must be far out, but the neighboring town is Dresden. I can get to the city center faster than some people from Dresden.
By now, after about 7 years, land prices here in town have also increased by a factor of 2.5. Finally, almost a Dresden local. Since I am not yet allowed to send private messages – Wilsdruff/Kesselsdorf or towards Bannewitz? 8-)
We moved around quite a bit. At first, we lived together in Gelsenkirchen, very central, with a daycare right across the street, a drugstore a 2-minute walk away, a trusted kebab place nearby, and plenty of discount stores on both sides to cover all our shopping needs.
My husband commuted 45 minutes to work every day, and I had a 20-30 minute commute.
In the end, we built our home where the plot was located that we liked and could afford. That turned out to be right next to my workplace (lucky us).
For us, it was important that no one had to deal with a long commute (my husband now only drives 30 minutes).
Other factors included:
- Daycare and primary school within 15 minutes by bike
- Shopping options within walking distance
- Leisure activities within biking distance (I’m not keen on driving my kids everywhere until they’re 18)
In the end, I think it will probably be the case with you that your wife will mainly pick up the kids from daycare and school, right? Therefore, I would consider giving her a bit of an advantage in terms of workplace location, especially if the childcare facilities are conveniently located.
My husband commuted 45 minutes to work every day, and I had a 20-30 minute commute.
In the end, we built our home where the plot was located that we liked and could afford. That turned out to be right next to my workplace (lucky us).
For us, it was important that no one had to deal with a long commute (my husband now only drives 30 minutes).
Other factors included:
- Daycare and primary school within 15 minutes by bike
- Shopping options within walking distance
- Leisure activities within biking distance (I’m not keen on driving my kids everywhere until they’re 18)
In the end, I think it will probably be the case with you that your wife will mainly pick up the kids from daycare and school, right? Therefore, I would consider giving her a bit of an advantage in terms of workplace location, especially if the childcare facilities are conveniently located.
We wanted to live as close as possible to our workplaces and have a highway (motorway) access. Since both my parents and my wife’s parents live south of Kassel, that direction was practically the only option (for emergency childcare later on).
In the end, we chose a neighboring village of the town where I grew up. If someone had told me 10 years ago that I would be building there someday, I would have thought they were crazy.
In the end, we chose a neighboring village of the town where I grew up. If someone had told me 10 years ago that I would be building there someday, I would have thought they were crazy.
PepeLupado9 Jan 2020 10:41Hello,
thank you very much for the responses.
Everyone naturally places different emphasis on certain topics and aspects.
We will take your answers into account when making our decision.
thank you very much for the responses.
Everyone naturally places different emphasis on certain topics and aspects.
We will take your answers into account when making our decision.