Hello everyone,
I hope I set up this topic correctly; if not, I would appreciate any advice.
A bit about me:
I am 24 years old, trained as an industrial clerk, worked for two years, and will complete a further qualification in business administration this June. So far, I live with my two dogs at my parents’ house, but once school is finished and I have a steady job again, it will be time to move out.
I’ve also been in a relationship for two years, although my boyfriend actually lives about 140km (87 miles) away. He spends so much time at my place that you could almost say he lives here.
Now to my actual problem. I own a plot of land that borders directly onto my parents’ property. It is currently serviced with utilities but remains undeveloped.
On the one hand, I don’t want to move into an expensive rental apartment and “finance a good life for the landlord” (I don’t mean this harshly,...), but on the other hand, I’m unsure if it makes sense to build so early.
Considering that landlords are probably not keen on tenants with two dogs, the question is whether my boyfriend and I would even be able to find an apartment.
I know there are countless online discussions about whether it makes sense to buy a house at a young age, but I haven’t found anyone who already owned a plot of land.
Best regards,
AnjaR93
I hope I set up this topic correctly; if not, I would appreciate any advice.
A bit about me:
I am 24 years old, trained as an industrial clerk, worked for two years, and will complete a further qualification in business administration this June. So far, I live with my two dogs at my parents’ house, but once school is finished and I have a steady job again, it will be time to move out.
I’ve also been in a relationship for two years, although my boyfriend actually lives about 140km (87 miles) away. He spends so much time at my place that you could almost say he lives here.
Now to my actual problem. I own a plot of land that borders directly onto my parents’ property. It is currently serviced with utilities but remains undeveloped.
On the one hand, I don’t want to move into an expensive rental apartment and “finance a good life for the landlord” (I don’t mean this harshly,...), but on the other hand, I’m unsure if it makes sense to build so early.
Considering that landlords are probably not keen on tenants with two dogs, the question is whether my boyfriend and I would even be able to find an apartment.
I know there are countless online discussions about whether it makes sense to buy a house at a young age, but I haven’t found anyone who already owned a plot of land.
Best regards,
AnjaR93
@j.bautsch
We enjoy that as well. I know my parents will keep enough distance, even though we live next to each other. My aunt and her family live diagonally across, and my other aunt lives a few streets away, just like my grandmother.
Of course, there are families who don’t handle this kind of "closeness" well, but for my partner and me, it’s not a problem. On the contrary... my daycare and my dog sitter live right next door. Super convenient!
I have also known since I was 15 that I want to build a house, and I have been thinking about possible floor plans for four years now, so I can’t really be accused of not knowing what I want...
@kaho674
There is definitely enough space at the back for a single-family home, but since I also need a bungalow either in addition or instead of two semi-detached houses, it gets a bit tight if you want a small garden somewhere too^^
The car situation is not a problem; it’s just a small side street with hardly any through traffic. 🙂
@Climbee
We will probably build with a local construction company based here in town. They have their own architects. But I will make sure to pay attention and gather opinions...
We enjoy that as well. I know my parents will keep enough distance, even though we live next to each other. My aunt and her family live diagonally across, and my other aunt lives a few streets away, just like my grandmother.
Of course, there are families who don’t handle this kind of "closeness" well, but for my partner and me, it’s not a problem. On the contrary... my daycare and my dog sitter live right next door. Super convenient!
I have also known since I was 15 that I want to build a house, and I have been thinking about possible floor plans for four years now, so I can’t really be accused of not knowing what I want...
@kaho674
There is definitely enough space at the back for a single-family home, but since I also need a bungalow either in addition or instead of two semi-detached houses, it gets a bit tight if you want a small garden somewhere too^^
The car situation is not a problem; it’s just a small side street with hardly any through traffic. 🙂
@Climbee
We will probably build with a local construction company based here in town. They have their own architects. But I will make sure to pay attention and gather opinions...
AnjaR93 schrieb:
From what I know about our city administration, this was an attempt without legal basis... The attempt itself is not punishable... ^^That could well have a foundation (a local ordinance or state law), but it might also just be empty noise.Climbee schrieb:
Start asking around now for architects who are willing to deal with the building authority and see if you like their style.The best fit is probably the architect whose homework the building official used to copy earlier :-)https://www.instagram.com/11antgmxde/
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AnjaR93 schrieb:
I have also known since I was 15 that I wanted to build a house and have been thinking about possible floor plans for 4 years, so you can’t really accuse me of not knowing what I want...Me too ;-) Still, I’m only building now (at 51 years old) and probably very differently than I would have 25 years ago. That said, I would probably still feel comfortable in a house I built back then, maybe with a few adjustments. The advantage now is that I would have likely paid off a large part of it by today.
Family proximity: we will be building right next to my mother’s house and yes, we know what we are doing.
I also think that for some families this wouldn’t work, but for us it definitely will (we already live quite close), because we give each other enough space (on both sides) while also being there for each other when needed. My brother and his family also live nearby; this is how we are used to living and can handle it.
That said, I know many cases where it didn’t work out. It’s definitely something to consider carefully.
Honestly, we also live close to family. I don’t have a problem with that. At least for now – and hopefully for a very long time – the question of who will take care of whom, and to what extent, when it comes to needing care, doesn’t arise. Nor how much closeness, or rather interference, there will be in raising children. And so on. People simply change over time, and care, along with the time, money, and inheritance involved, can tear whole families apart...
It is good when the whole family is together – much better than just one person living next to the parents and being the primary caregiver, while the siblings only visit at Christmas.
https://www.instagram.com/11antgmxde/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/bauen-jetzt/
https://www.instagram.com/11antgmxde/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/bauen-jetzt/