Hello everyone,
The house building process is slowly wearing on our nerves, and we haven’t even really started yet 🙁
We’ve been working on the floor plan for a year now, and it’s finally entering the final phase... Now comes the window discussion 🙁
Is it just as difficult for you, or is it only us?
It’s no longer enjoyable because everyone has a completely different idea, making even compromises hard to find. You can see that in our very long planning phase.
A few tips would be great 🙂
Thanks & good luck
milkie
The house building process is slowly wearing on our nerves, and we haven’t even really started yet 🙁
We’ve been working on the floor plan for a year now, and it’s finally entering the final phase... Now comes the window discussion 🙁
Is it just as difficult for you, or is it only us?
It’s no longer enjoyable because everyone has a completely different idea, making even compromises hard to find. You can see that in our very long planning phase.
A few tips would be great 🙂
Thanks & good luck
milkie
Alright, we will try to be more straightforward in the future.
Last night, there was just a point that made me want to complain... Sorry!
The architect's windows? Simply unacceptable!
• French balconies, even though we clearly communicated that we didn’t want them – has he already forgotten that?
• Floor-to-ceiling windows facing the very close neighboring houses, and small windows toward the gardens… Shouldn’t it be the other way around as a matter of course?
• Too many different window sizes – a more consistent design would be visually more appealing...
This is why the window discussion even came up… Unfortunately!
I would like to share the architect’s designs with you, but we have already “doodled” on them.
Last night, there was just a point that made me want to complain... Sorry!
The architect's windows? Simply unacceptable!
• French balconies, even though we clearly communicated that we didn’t want them – has he already forgotten that?
• Floor-to-ceiling windows facing the very close neighboring houses, and small windows toward the gardens… Shouldn’t it be the other way around as a matter of course?
• Too many different window sizes – a more consistent design would be visually more appealing...
This is why the window discussion even came up… Unfortunately!
I would like to share the architect’s designs with you, but we have already “doodled” on them.
Hi, milkie. I wouldn’t make too big a deal out of it. Fortunately, my husband and I agree immediately on many things, but we also argue fiercely about other trivial stuff. To prevent it from escalating, I often say we should settle it physically (my husband weighs about twice as much as I do). He laughs at that, and it helps us relax a bit before the next round. We’ve actually had physical fights before. However, we laughed so much during those that there was no winner...
Be careful with all the discussion so that in the end you don’t build a house that none of you like 🙂
Compromises are good and necessary, but not everything has to be a compromise.
Who is more emotionally invested?
For example, I had few ideas about how our bathroom should look. I let my wife choose the tiles, then I looked again myself and picked the ones I liked best from her selection. My only requirement was bright/white wall tiles.
In the end, I am satisfied with the result, even though I might never have chosen those tiles myself. I would have preferred much less color involved.
Compromises are good and necessary, but not everything has to be a compromise.
Who is more emotionally invested?
For example, I had few ideas about how our bathroom should look. I let my wife choose the tiles, then I looked again myself and picked the ones I liked best from her selection. My only requirement was bright/white wall tiles.
In the end, I am satisfied with the result, even though I might never have chosen those tiles myself. I would have preferred much less color involved.
It’s also important to reflect on your own traits:
If one person likes to spend money and the other tends to save, the latter is in a better position.
Or as DerDa already said: if one has passion and enjoys tinkering with the design, they should be given more freedom, or the other person should let them take the lead and trust them.
If one enjoys cooking, they can choose the kitchen appliances, and both can decide on the fronts. If no compromise can be reached, the style should match the house. 😉
By the way, even BEFORE selecting the tiles, we repeatedly discussed our preferences.
Me: “... but you don’t like white tiles either, right? You find them a bit too cold, don’t you?”
Him: “Yes, something warmer would be nice!”
Me: “But dark or anthracite is so sensitive...”
Him: “Really??? Of course, we don’t want that.”
Me: “Well, first of all, I found some stylish tiles that I think you’d like; they have a slightly mottled surface.”
Him: “Oh yes, we can definitely take a look at those in person.” 😉 🙂 😀
If one person likes to spend money and the other tends to save, the latter is in a better position.
Or as DerDa already said: if one has passion and enjoys tinkering with the design, they should be given more freedom, or the other person should let them take the lead and trust them.
If one enjoys cooking, they can choose the kitchen appliances, and both can decide on the fronts. If no compromise can be reached, the style should match the house. 😉
By the way, even BEFORE selecting the tiles, we repeatedly discussed our preferences.
Me: “... but you don’t like white tiles either, right? You find them a bit too cold, don’t you?”
Him: “Yes, something warmer would be nice!”
Me: “But dark or anthracite is so sensitive...”
Him: “Really??? Of course, we don’t want that.”
Me: “Well, first of all, I found some stylish tiles that I think you’d like; they have a slightly mottled surface.”
Him: “Oh yes, we can definitely take a look at those in person.” 😉 🙂 😀
It was quite different for me. During the construction, my husband was away a lot and basically left all the decisions to me. Whether that was better than with milkie, I honestly don’t know... It wasn’t easy for me! But all’s well that ends well! The house is finished and we both like it:o
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