ᐅ Does anyone know the name of this flooring pattern?

The tone makes all the difference, and to me (and maybe also Tarnari), your tone came across as rude, condescending, and almost aggressive.
I can’t really pinpoint it to specific words, and something was deleted in the thread anyway.

Ben-man schrieb:

It doesn’t matter what kind of surface it is. […] The question isn’t which type of surface it is but generally whether anyone recognizes the surface.

Here you repeat for the third time that the surface doesn’t matter (even though many understood your question differently), which Tarnari then described quite aptly as

Tarnari schrieb:
“that’s a wheat roll,” and you responded “I don’t want to know whether it’s wheat, but how much salt.”

, and I heard it as “I don’t want to know which surface, but which pattern, you lucky bear!” (Edited swear word). Aggressive indeed.

And this confirms it:

Ben-man schrieb:

11ant’s stupid know-it-all answer

Maybe you should reflect on yourself, or maybe you dismiss all this nonsense as just that, it’s up to you.
I think it’s good that you found the pattern and especially that you shared it here!

Tamstar schrieb:

Tone makes all the difference, and to me (and perhaps to Tarnari as well) your tone came across as rude, condescending, and almost aggressive.
I can’t really pinpoint it to any specific words, and some posts were deleted in the thread anyway.

The deleted posts were all from the discussion between 11ant and me (and no one else), which was solely about him trying to lecture me that wood flooring is not the same as vinyl, that I know nothing, and that I should better look for something else. This discussion was completely unnecessary because it had NOTHING to do with the actual topic and contributed NOTHING to my original question.

If you ask in a car forum what a certain paint is called, and then some random person tries to lecture you on why the paint doesn’t matter and that you should rather decide between manual or automatic transmission, and when you make it clear that you just want to know the name of the paint, that same person condescendingly tells you to choose between diesel or petrol engine instead—would you be grateful for that help? Definitely not. And that’s exactly what happened in this discussion. When I calmly explained that I don’t want to install the flooring but use it otherwise, he tried to make the discussion ridiculous and made silly remarks.

By the way, the discussion was deleted at my request, and the moderators obviously agreed with me, otherwise nothing would have been deleted. I even thanked them for that!

Tamstar schrieb:

Here you repeat for the third time that the type of flooring doesn’t matter (although many have understood your question differently), which Tarnari described quite aptly, and I heard that.

I could have written that eight or nine more times if needed. I don’t know what others understood, but in the thread title, in the first post, and repeatedly, I clearly stated that it’s about the pattern because I do not want to install the flooring.

Tamstar schrieb:

“I don’t want to know which type of flooring, but which pattern, you lucky charmer!” (Offensive word changed by the editors). Aggressive indeed.

I NEVER wrote that—not even remotely. Where do you get that accusation from?

Tamstar schrieb:

Maybe reflect on yourself, maybe just dismiss the nonsense as just that, that’s up to you.
I’m glad you found the pattern and especially that you shared it here!

I do reflect, more often than some others, otherwise I wouldn’t be responding at all. To me, it seems that some people automatically classify direct answers as aggressive, even though they are not. Direct answers are focused and straightforward, but that doesn’t mean insulting or rude. Maybe it’s because of my daily work, where I’m used to this tone of communication. In any case, it was never my intention to come across that way. I don’t ask for help in a forum and then insult people who want to help me. If it really sounded like that, I apologize—that was not my intention (except for the discussion with 11ant—I do not apologize for that because it was not caused by me, and I won’t let someone lecture me who responds condescendingly and ridiculously).

Ben-man schrieb:

I never wrote that anywhere – not even remotely. Where do you get that accusation from?

I was just trying to explain how I perceived it; I know you didn’t write that literally and now also that you didn’t mean it that way. So, all is good.

Ben-man schrieb:

that it’s about the decor since I don’t want to install the flooring. …I’m going to make several picture frames out of it now.

That information might have been helpful at the beginning. But now the discussion is pointless.

If you really make picture frames out of it (and this wasn’t a jab at the elephant that I don’t understand), then I wish you a lot of fun; maybe you’ll even show us the results.

Tamstar schrieb:

That information might have been helpful at the beginning. But now the discussion is pointless.

In my experience with DIY projects, it’s not always the best idea to share all the details upfront. Otherwise, responses like "you wouldn’t build a picture frame out of that," "I’d use real wood for that," or "why do you want to make the frame yourself?" would almost certainly come up. That would have been even less productive.

Tamstar schrieb:

If you’re really making picture frames out of it (and this wasn’t a sarcastic comment I didn’t get), then I wish you good luck, and maybe you’ll even share the results with us

No, that wasn’t sarcasm – but to be precise, these won’t be picture frames, rather borders for smart mirrors. For my case, a low frame profile is important because the mirror will be recessed into a wall. That’s also why I considered using flooring material. The mirror itself is already in progress. If the frame works out as I imagine, I can share that here.

Sounds interesting. Looking forward to the result.
No hard feelings.

Ben-man schrieb:

All the deleted posts came from the discussion between 11ant and me (and no one else), which was solely about him trying to teach me that wood flooring is not the same as vinyl, that I have no clue, and that I should look elsewhere for information. This discussion was completely unnecessary because it had NOTHING to do with the original topic and contributed NOTHING to my actual question.

Ben-man schrieb:

I don’t know what others understood, but in the thread title, in the first post, and repeatedly throughout, I stated that it is about the pattern since I do not want to install the flooring.

Ben-man schrieb:

When I calmly explained to him that I do not want to install the flooring but rather use it for another purpose, he tried to ridicule the discussion and made silly remarks.

Ben-man schrieb:

If it really came across that way, I apologize; that was not my intention (except for the discussion with 11ant – for that I do not apologize because it was not caused by me, and I will not be lectured by someone who responds condescendingly and ridiculously).

You asked here about a flooring sample. It is hardly surprising that responders assumed you wanted to buy a flooring that looks as similar as possible and then use it in the usual way. This is quite common here, as people often want to cover another room—often an adjacent one—with a matching look. So several responders tried to do what is typically done in such cases: they showed you ways to achieve that goal. To dismiss this as lecturing and disparage the suggestion of alternatives is utterly inappropriate. We frequently don’t know the technical background our questioners have as homeowners. When you later—by the way, definitely not in the opening post!—stated that you only wanted to know the pattern, you still didn’t reveal what it was for—and no one is to blame for not reading your mind, including me!!! Instead, you led us to conclude that the reason for your question was just an intellectual curiosity not meant for actual use. In everyday life, your counterpart might lose their patience briefly over such behavior and “encourage” you to visit a dentist. I keep my humor in such situations instead of resorting to violence—maybe you should be grateful for that instead of slandering it as ridicule!
If you had, like normal people do—and you can ask a neurodiverse person how to do that—simply said: “Hey everyone, I want to use a sample for a different purpose but it should resemble the shown flooring,” you would have received suitable answers. As long as you let us believe that you were searching for a specific flooring pattern to buy, you get answers tailored to your question, not to your secret intentions. This is not aggression; it is communication!
Honestly, I still cannot understand how someone can be so rude and mock friendly help and even the humor used to overlook when they criticize responses that mainly result from their misleading question!
You did not explain anything to me in a factual way; instead, you even bit back at my humor! Politeness works differently.

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