ᐅ Do you have a tendency toward perfectionism when it comes to your home?
Created on: 5 Jan 2022 09:25
P
Pinkiponk
You, like me, have probably noticed in various threads that I didn’t plan and think through everything in detail. How about you? Did you have clear ideas and were you able to implement them 100%? If not, what percentage of the result matched your planning and wishes at the time you moved into your house? How much or what did you change or wish for differently later on?
(Just one example: tiles in the bathrooms and/or on the floor. Some of you calculate, based on the tile size, which was chosen deliberately, whether and where “cutting” can be avoided or arranged in an aesthetically pleasing way. As mentioned, just an example, this is not meant to be a tiling discussion.)
(Just one example: tiles in the bathrooms and/or on the floor. Some of you calculate, based on the tile size, which was chosen deliberately, whether and where “cutting” can be avoided or arranged in an aesthetically pleasing way. As mentioned, just an example, this is not meant to be a tiling discussion.)
Pinkiponk schrieb:
You, just like me, have already noticed in various threads that I haven’t thought through and planned everything in detail. I remember many of your questions that might lead an outsider to think you’re someone in your early twenties, living in a high-rise apartment, suddenly thrown into life because house construction is about to begin, without having faced life before 😉
But that’s not a problem:
You prefer to focus on the person making the statement, paying close attention to them, and in doing so, you sometimes forget to focus on extracting something meaningful from the question or answer itself.
Pinkiponk schrieb:
How was it for you? Did you have clear ideas and were you able to implement them 100%? If not, what percentage did the result match your plans and wishes at the time you moved into your house? I used to be very “picky,” aiming for perfection (professionally, I have to be meticulous). Fortunately, as I’ve aged, I’ve become more relaxed in all kinds of situations. In my view, life is not about achieving 100%, but about satisfaction. (Some achieve nothing at all and are satisfied.)
In private life and at work, you get quite far by focusing on a goal and giving it some thought. You question things and seek opinions. The problem in many areas of life might be that people can’t interpret or use those opinions for themselves. If I ask my work environment how to fill out a form correctly, it doesn’t help if I don’t follow it the next day. With that attitude, I might even be fired.
Could you see yourself as @Pinkiponk in floor plan planning, when almost all good advice is dismissed with “we’ll do that later,” or “architecture isn’t my thing, we’ll live elsewhere anyway,” or “kitchen planning doesn’t matter to me”? Basically, nothing you were advised was really important to you. To me, that feels somewhat unplanned... What matters is a romantic house with lots of roses and flowers. But that’s you, and that’s perfectly fine. They send you to the hardware store for nails and wood, and you come back with flowers 🙂
And yes, I think most people are different: whether 100% or not, there is a plan, and they think about it. And plans can be legitimately changed. The exact percentage doesn’t really matter. Others may see it differently 🙂
I’m also quite sure now that you don’t actually want to know the answers to your questions, but just want to chat with us :p
11ant schrieb:
but then leave out the third one for yourself. sob, but we don’t want to leave here anymore
Yaso2.0 schrieb:
I have a tendency towards perfectionism in many areas of my life, including the house.
However, over the past few months, I’ve realized that I sometimes get completely stuck in my perfectionism with some things, while rushing through others. It’s not that the rushed things turn out badly, but later my perfectionism kicks in again, and I get annoyed for not having taken the extra time to make them (at least for the moment) perfect. As a result, I sometimes have to pay extra afterward because changes are requested here and there.
Then, after a while, the standards change again, the child(ren) grow up, and I myself shift my priorities. Suddenly, the “previous” level of perfection is no longer perfect, and I start the whole process from scratch again. That’s at least how it is for me.
I am trying not to give in so much to this inner urge for perfectionism because it really costs me a lot of energy. For example, during the planning phase of our house, I thought about making everything perfect to the point that it haunted me in my sleep and woke me up at night with even better ideas.
That’s not healthy, and I am working on it!Is there anything concrete about that? A lot said, but nothing really communicated. 😀
P
Pinkiponk5 Jan 2022 10:37ypg schrieb:
I remember many of your questions that might give a stranger the impression that, as someone in their early 20s living in an apartment building, you are suddenly thrown into life because of the upcoming house construction, without ever having faced real-life challenges before 😉 It is actually true that I have always tried to create an idyllic environment and have rarely (if ever) had to leave it. But I actually like it that way. (There are exceptions, for example the short-term price increase.)
Pinkiponk schrieb:
It is true that I have always tried to create an idyllic environment and have rarely (or never?) had to leave it. I actually like it that way. (There are exceptions, for example the short-term price increase.) Could one find you anywhere in the professional world? It would fit if you supported your husband at home in the traditional female role.