Hello dear forum members,
I would be interested in your opinions on the following situation: I currently live with my two teenage kids in a rented apartment with one bedroom for the children. Previously, we lived in a house with a garden, pool, etc. Now there is an opportunity to purchase a semi-detached house (plot size 250 m² (2700 sq ft), living space 130 m² (1400 sq ft) over 3 floors plus a 50 m² (540 sq ft) basement) where construction has already started.
Since the children definitely want to stay in the town where we currently live, I am considering buying this house. If I didn’t have to take the children’s wishes into account, I might also consider other locations where, for example, the garden is larger and the living space is not spread over 3 floors.
It is important to me that the children feel comfortable, so I would accept these compromises and keep in mind that I can still move in the future when the kids have moved out and then realize my own preferences.
And who knows when another opportunity like this will come along.
What do you think? Of course, a lot of work and time goes into this project, and buying a house is not an everyday decision, but as I said, if I were deciding just for myself, I would consider other options as well.
Thank you for your opinions!
I would be interested in your opinions on the following situation: I currently live with my two teenage kids in a rented apartment with one bedroom for the children. Previously, we lived in a house with a garden, pool, etc. Now there is an opportunity to purchase a semi-detached house (plot size 250 m² (2700 sq ft), living space 130 m² (1400 sq ft) over 3 floors plus a 50 m² (540 sq ft) basement) where construction has already started.
Since the children definitely want to stay in the town where we currently live, I am considering buying this house. If I didn’t have to take the children’s wishes into account, I might also consider other locations where, for example, the garden is larger and the living space is not spread over 3 floors.
It is important to me that the children feel comfortable, so I would accept these compromises and keep in mind that I can still move in the future when the kids have moved out and then realize my own preferences.
And who knows when another opportunity like this will come along.
What do you think? Of course, a lot of work and time goes into this project, and buying a house is not an everyday decision, but as I said, if I were deciding just for myself, I would consider other options as well.
Thank you for your opinions!
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Pinkiponk7 Jul 2020 14:44"Teenagers," meaning from 13 years old? I probably wouldn’t base my planning on the children at that age, since they will likely start university or college elsewhere in 4-5 years and then move to where they can find interesting jobs.
Then buy the house now, but not as a “forever” home—instead, with the plan to sell it once the kids have “outgrown” it and you can redesign according to your preferences. Consider homeownership in this sense only as an alternative to renting, and don’t let yourself be influenced by detailed recommendations about construction changes. Your description suggests living in the house for ten years or less. In that case, it doesn’t really matter whether the pantry door slides in front of or behind the wall.
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nordanney7 Jul 2020 15:08Nela001 schrieb:
It’s important to me that the children feel comfortableThis doesn’t depend on a special design of the property. A garden is enough, the kids could even have an entire floor to themselves ==> cool Nela001 schrieb:
that’s why I’m willing to make these compromisesCompromises? The kids probably won’t see it that way. It’s very subjective. Nela001 schrieb:
keep in mind that I can always move when the kids have moved out and then implement my own wishes.Exactly! Nela001 schrieb:
What do you think? Of course, you put a lot of work and time into this project and you don’t buy a house every day,But buying every few years isn’t a big deal. Always the right property for your life situation. If the house suits you now, then buy it. If it doesn’t suit you anymore later, then sell it. When buying, make sure you get something mainstream, so you can resell it later without hassle.
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pagoni20207 Jul 2020 15:32If this house is truly an "opportunity," meaning its quality and affordability could work for you, I can definitely imagine something like this. I would be certain that if I thought it was the right choice, I would change the situation again later, as has happened before.
If you can really commit to it, it’s definitely a good idea to seriously consider it, because you know you can change it again.
I would never base the decision on the children’s opinion. They are children and can’t properly assess the background of a home purchase. It’s your responsibility to make this decision—and to do so in your own best interest—because if you are unhappy, no one benefits.
You could save yourself a lot of stress since the house is what it is—and it’s right in front of your current front door.
I think you probably already know what you want to do. Maybe share a few more details and wait to see what other feedback comes.
As you’ll read, when building a new home, people often have all kinds of (sometimes silly) thoughts—even about children’s bathrooms and other things. I believe children are happy living very simply or even playfully and without fuss, with or without play areas or parking spaces; the high-end features are usually for us adults, and the kids often serve as justification for that... mea culpa...
If you can really commit to it, it’s definitely a good idea to seriously consider it, because you know you can change it again.
I would never base the decision on the children’s opinion. They are children and can’t properly assess the background of a home purchase. It’s your responsibility to make this decision—and to do so in your own best interest—because if you are unhappy, no one benefits.
You could save yourself a lot of stress since the house is what it is—and it’s right in front of your current front door.
I think you probably already know what you want to do. Maybe share a few more details and wait to see what other feedback comes.
As you’ll read, when building a new home, people often have all kinds of (sometimes silly) thoughts—even about children’s bathrooms and other things. I believe children are happy living very simply or even playfully and without fuss, with or without play areas or parking spaces; the high-end features are usually for us adults, and the kids often serve as justification for that... mea culpa...
I experienced exactly the same as you: two kids, although a bit younger, living in a single-family house with a garden, of course.
Then we moved to a rental apartment with one children’s bedroom, in a panel building... for me, it just didn’t work anymore; I never felt comfortable.
So I also started looking for a house. I found one, bought it, finished building, we moved in – and after one week, it already felt like home.
The children love having their own rooms and the garden. And I enjoy the privacy and that people greet each other again on the street. Almost everything is nicer than before – the bathroom, the kitchen, more space...
I don’t see any "downsides" in that sense; the lot is only 300cm² (3,229 sq ft), two stories (so not too "stacked").
If it’s financially possible – just do it!
Then we moved to a rental apartment with one children’s bedroom, in a panel building... for me, it just didn’t work anymore; I never felt comfortable.
So I also started looking for a house. I found one, bought it, finished building, we moved in – and after one week, it already felt like home.
The children love having their own rooms and the garden. And I enjoy the privacy and that people greet each other again on the street. Almost everything is nicer than before – the bathroom, the kitchen, more space...
I don’t see any "downsides" in that sense; the lot is only 300cm² (3,229 sq ft), two stories (so not too "stacked").
If it’s financially possible – just do it!
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