Hello dear members,
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
I discovered your lovely forum thanks to Google. Unfortunately, as is often the case, a problem has brought me here.
We are building an extension onto an existing semi-detached house in Baden-Württemberg.
We are building on a slab foundation. The friendly neighbor built his half with a basement.
We live 70 kilometers (about 43 miles) away from the construction site.
Therefore, with both of us working and having two children, we cannot be at the site all the time.
Yesterday morning, the workers began setting the formwork for the slab foundation.
When I arrived at the site yesterday, my friendly neighbor was already there waiting for me.
He yelled at me quite loudly and was extremely angry.
He said that the slab foundation towards his side was insulated only with Styrodur (extruded polystyrene).
One of the workers tried to explain that in addition to the Styrodur, a 4 cm (1.6 inch) soundproofing wall would be installed along the house.
Still, he did not calm down.
He just kept yelling. He said he would take pictures and that he would refuse to pay.
We have no intention of demanding any money from him.
I was really shocked!!!
Actually, he should be worried, since he built 3 cm (1.2 inches) of his house’s total length over our property boundary.
What is the legal situation here?
I told my husband about it.
He wanted to see a lawyer right away.
For me, maintaining peace with the neighbor is more important.
Please excuse my spelling mistakes and my lack of knowledge. I have two children and need to keep them happy at the same time.
Thank you,
Sandra
tumaa schrieb:
There are two types tumaa schrieb:
Those who tumaa schrieb:
And those who It’s sad to see this black-and-white thinking that you’re showing. You don’t accept other opinions but talk about tolerance. Almost pathetic.
(By the way, I do have children)
MayrCh schrieb:
It’s sad, this black-and-white thinking you’re showing. You don’t accept other opinions, yet you talk about tolerance. Almost pathetic.
(By the way, I have children) Yes, it is pathetic, but it’s also pathetic that you don’t read my statements fully—I said “often”......
Why is it not allowed to have a different opinion here, why is it seen as pathetic, who am I personally attacking with that?!
Anyone here who doesn’t mind children doesn’t need to feel addressed!
Anyone here who simply dislikes children (I mean in a derogatory way) should feel addressed!!
Tumaa, actually I didn’t want to say anything on this topic here (after all, I’m uninformed and not entitled to judge since I don’t have children, yeah yeah), but honestly: what’s your problem?
The neighbors of your brother, who obviously couldn’t tolerate children’s noise, moved away without asking for permission first? Seriously?
Try to imagine what it would have looked like if they had stayed there. THEN there would have been reason to complain, I agree with you. That would have caused trouble for sure. But this way? Perfectly resolved—for both sides, I would say.
And that these “bad, bad” neighbors were so disrespectful and ignored your brother’s children, didn’t greet them back—oh dear, the poor little sensitive souls.
No, it’s not polite or nice—but honestly: you have to put up with people like that your whole life, even as an adult. It was your brother’s job (and hopefully it was) to teach the children that there are just sourpusses like that and you shouldn’t let them get you down. Lessons learned—for life.
I would be very happy if neighbors like that moved away (your brother has my envy for sure—I have such neighbors myself, and would definitely welcome this kind of behavior by selling the house!).
The neighbors of your brother, who obviously couldn’t tolerate children’s noise, moved away without asking for permission first? Seriously?
Try to imagine what it would have looked like if they had stayed there. THEN there would have been reason to complain, I agree with you. That would have caused trouble for sure. But this way? Perfectly resolved—for both sides, I would say.
And that these “bad, bad” neighbors were so disrespectful and ignored your brother’s children, didn’t greet them back—oh dear, the poor little sensitive souls.
No, it’s not polite or nice—but honestly: you have to put up with people like that your whole life, even as an adult. It was your brother’s job (and hopefully it was) to teach the children that there are just sourpusses like that and you shouldn’t let them get you down. Lessons learned—for life.
I would be very happy if neighbors like that moved away (your brother has my envy for sure—I have such neighbors myself, and would definitely welcome this kind of behavior by selling the house!).
Climbee schrieb:
Your brother’s neighbors, who obviously couldn’t tolerate children’s noise, moved away without asking for permission beforehand? Are you serious? Permission? No, that’s not required; it’s more about clear communication.
I don’t have a problem here, I’m just expressing my point of view. I might have a problem if suddenly my wife doesn’t want to be involved anymore.....
Additional info about the neighbors: I heard they wanted to sell their house, but I didn’t know the reason. A cousin was interested in the house, and when I asked, the owner (who seemed to be a controlling type—her husband wasn’t allowed out, she blocked him) said: No, we’re not selling our house; people are spreading lies (she said this very rudely).
Two weeks later, the house was sold. The new owner told my brother that during the viewing appointments, we should enter as discreetly as possible, always through the basement, so the neighborhood wouldn’t notice anything.
On one point, I agree with you: they did move away.
tumaa schrieb:
Anyone here who simply dislikes children (I mean in a derogatory way) should take this personally!! Tumaa, no one here has anything against children. You are getting worked up over a lot of misunderstandings in the comments.
tumaa schrieb:
I was referring to "frequently"You assign one of your black-and-white subsets blanket attributes that you have developed for yourself based on hearsay about the behavior of others, and you try to soften this with "frequently," yet at the same time you imply it applies universally.That doesn't make it any better.